I often find myself going through life looking for a sign to just tell me what it is that I need to do, and I know I’m not alone. When I ask myself: Who am I supposed to marry? I try to look for a sign to know if this girl is the right one for me. When I ask myself what I need to do with my life, I try to look for a sign from whatever it may be that will give me some sort of a hint as to what I should pursue. Now, I find that a lot of us tend to look for just incredible signs to smack us across the face for these big life decisions, but that’s not how it’s supposed to be.

Do you know how often a “sign” like what you’re looking for actually happens? Do you have any idea how much less likely it is for it to actually be true or pertain to what we are asking? Really the odds aren’t looking so good.

Here’s an example: my freshman year of college I met this girl, and I started to have some feelings for her, and so I prayed and I prayed and I prayed, asking for God to just let me know if she is the one I needed to pursue a relationship with. I mean, I got emphatic, and I looked for any and everything that could possibly lead me in that direction. And then on the first time, I went to hang out with her one on one, it happened.

I was taking her to see the Scorch Trials at 7:00pm because she loved the first movie, and so I stepped out of my dorm at 6:30 to go and get her (after I had prayed for a sign) and bam the most beautiful sunset I have ever seen greeted me. Everything was pink! Not an inch of the sky wasn’t just a beautiful pink hue. I mean, it was so pink that the grass, walls, floor, asphalt, and whatever else looked pink. It was just ridiculous! And, as if that wasn’t enough, there was a double rainbow in the sky.

Now, I obviously received new vigor in my desire to pursue that relationship because I thought that that was it, God had basically just told me, “go get ‘em, David”. That’s the thing, though, because no matter how much it looked like the hand of God to me, no matter how much it seemed like I was supposed to be with her, she never got that memo. As I filled my head with these fantasies from a “sign” she not once even thought about us in the same way.

Now that I look at my life, I can see that so much of these “signs” I look for are just pointless. What good is it to spend your life praying for God to just show you a magical sign when so much of what he does is not done like that? What good is it to look for a mystical sign where in most of life there just isn’t?

When it comes to marriage, if you love him/her with all of your heart; if you know you could spend the rest of your life with them; if you know that you’ll be able to further God’s plan for both of your lives together, then let me ask you this: what if that is your sign? What if when all of these pieces just fall into place, that is the sign that you need to look for, but are too busy just for something grand? What if those delusions of grandeur make you miss the beautiful little everyday signs that are there?

Every time she makes you smile, that’s a sign. Every time you think you can’t live your life without her, that’s a sign. Every time you think of her and are just unbelievably love-struck and happy and know a life with her would be incredible, that’s a sign! And the same exact thing goes for other aspects of your life be they job decisions, moving, choosing a college, or whatever they may be. When the little pieces fit that’s it!

Our God is an incredibly grand God and he loves to work in grand ways, but sometimes it’s just the little things that count. I mean, the same God who made the stars and the galaxies also made the atoms, the protons, neutrons, electrons, quarks, and photons. There is so much that goes on in life that we miss because we are too busy looking for the large pictures. Don’t miss the beautiful little signs that are right there in front of your eyes.