Stop Looking For Your Soulmate, Start Looking For Your Soul Tribe

Since you were a little kid, the idea of finding your soulmate is drilled into your head through books, movies, television, and family members. The people around you mention how your wedding day will be the best day of your life; I'm pretty sure every girl is guilty of planning their wedding at the age of 12. Our parents grew up in a generation of finding love at a young age, which came along with marriage and children at a young age. Let me tell you, I am in my second year of college and yet to meet one dateable person. We live in a hook up culture. Some people see this as a bad thing, but I'm gonna take it in a positive way.

You might think, "How is a hook up culture a positive thing?" Well, look at it like this. You are young, students who are also working, and trying to figure out what you want to do with your life. When does a relationship fit into that? You should be figuring out who you are as a person before giving yourself to another person. I'm not shaming anyone currently in a good relationship, trust me, plenty of people wish they were you (including myself sometimes).

So, instead of looking for your soulmate, why don't you try looking for your soul tribe? What is a soul tribe you might ask? They are your people. The people you can go to about anything going on in your life, good or bad. They are the people to have fun with when you need it, and shoulder to lean on when things get rough. These are the people who love you and value you as much as you value them in your life.

While you still can, use your soul tribe to your advantage. Go on adventures with them, plan trips, make memories. You and your tribe need to live your life before one day you wake up at the age of 30 and realize you still haven't done anything you've wanted to do. Use this as a motto for your tribe, "What's the craziest thing you've done recently?" Has it been awhile? Time to fix that, plan your next adventure even if it's just a drive to a waterfall or amusement park.

Find the tribe that will have your back no matter what. The people that won't judge you based on the mistakes or bad decisions you've made. The people that encourage you to do that dumb thing once, but just once. The people who will be straight up with you when you're not making the right decision. The people who will tell you if an outfit actually looks good on you. Most importantly, the people who will be there for you when you feel like your world is falling apart. Find your soul tribe before you find your soulmate, your soul tribe will know when you find your soulmate.

I just want to say thank you to my soul tribe, you all know who you are.