Isn't it weird how emotions work?

When we miss someone, our emotions run wild. The emotion of loss and emptiness are some of the hardest single emotions humans can face.

This person that we miss can be someone from our past: someone that hurt us, did heartless things and got away with it. You name it!

We all have someone that did something "wrong" to us, and sometimes in the dramatic period following a breakup or splitting of friends, we genuinely miss that person.

There are so, so many pieces of literature about missing someone. In fact, if you turn on the radio, half the songs you hear are going to be about breakups and missing the person that left. There are even some songs about best friends splitting apart and the drama that ensues.

There is always a period in that "losing someone" process where the person that left is almost God-like to us. Since we no longer have what that person gave us, we suddenly forget every bad thing they have done and reminisce on the potential of said relationship and everything that went right (sometimes being very few things!).

Just ... stop.

This honestly doesn't apply to everyone, but something people often do while missing someone that hurt them is remember only the positives. Treating them as some sort of idol, when really they deserve no thought at all.

It may sound brutal to a pair of fragile ears, but its probably the most important advice if you're going through a heartbreak or if a friend willingly walked out of your life: stop idolizing them.

The cliche statement that people walk out of your life for a reason is, by far, the most truth you could want to hear. So much truth, it makes you hurt. When you forget the reasons that person left you and idolize every positive thing about them, you're contradicting the aforementioned statement and letting the other side win.

So, if you're struggling with strong emotions because someone willingly walked out of your life and start thinking too much about it, tell yourself to stop. Never forget the positive lessons they may have taught you, but certainly never forget that dreaming of the potential and positives gets you nowhere near feeling better.