It is rather safe to say that everyone on planet Earth knows the feeling all too well of having your favorite dish in front of you. No matter if it's a drink, food or sweets, you stuff yourself until you are completely full. And despite the heavy feeling in your body, your eyes continue to be bigger than your stomach. You still choke down the last few bites. You do this because it is your “all-time favorite” or it's “from your favorite place” or maybe because you just aren’t quite sure when you will be able to indulge again. Whatever the case may be, you understand my point. Why do we, as human beings, with the privilege to taste, touch, feel, see and hear and speak continue to not appreciate, but take these for granted, until our bodies can’t physically take it anymore? Why do we eat until we are miserably full? Why do we smoke until we cough and drink until we are drunk?

We do more than take for granted, we abuse.

This theory of abusing the things that give us joy in our lives, things we should be grateful for, specifically applies to ex-partners and bad habits. You get the idea.

I will relate these two things best as possible. My ideas are based on my own experiences and those around me. After contemplating, you justify stuffing that very last piece of pizza down your throat, when you know you will end up feeling sick, regretful, gluttonous and gross. You predicted that it would end poorly based on your past experiences. You knew better from the start.

You open up Pandora’s box with your ex. You already know how this will end.

You go back to what you know cannot serve you because you have already been around the block.

Grow your will power. Stop ripping the skeletons out of your closet.

It is so simple to justify going back to what is comfortable. You know getting your coffee at the same place every morning will be satisfying. Maybe not excellent and invigorating, but satisfying. You know that going back to habit will provide temporary satisfaction, but you also know there is much better out there in this enormous world. You know there is something that has the potential to be much more than only “satisfying.” However, it is much easier said than done to give up a comfortable favorite. It takes faith in the thought that this universe has far more to offer than anything we can imagine, and it takes willpower.

I can’t promise that it will be easy and I can’t promise that you will be happy instantaneously with your choice. I can’t promise that you won’t go back a few more times before you quit, but I can ensure that if you do, you won’t feel that miserably full feeling that will disappear in 24 hours just so you can go back and overeat again.

Even though they’re quite similar in effects, they are quite different. Overeating food and continuously going back to negative relationships are much different in the sense that food is food, and wearing your body and life down with someone has long term effects.

I will always live by the motto: let go of what no longer serves you. I believe it wholeheartedly, and it goes for any bad habit within a lifetime. Life is too short to settle, and not tingle with the sensation of knowing you have exactly what you deserve. Keep seeking new opportunities and strive to fulfill each day rather than run around in "comfortable" circles.

Backward might be easier, but forward will be beneficial.