Stop Defending Your Cheating Best Friend

Stop Defending Your Cheating Best Friend

If your best friend comes to you and says that they are helping someone cheat on their partner; you need to put an end to it.
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Something that I've never come to understand is why people defend their best friends, even when said best friend is destroying another person's happiness.

Men and women both defend their closest friend in times of turmoil, especially when they've cheated. You know what I'm talking about. It's been in so many movies where people who cheat confide in their best friend and expect them to stay loyal.

No. Just No.

If your best friend comes to you and says that they are helping someone cheat on their partner; you need to put an end to it.

As a person who has experienced this first hand, it's almost as bad as being cheated on. You are unknowing to what is going on. Then you are hit all at once and the worst thing someone can say is, "I wanted to tell you, but they've been my friend for.."

It makes the one who has been hurt feel embarrassed, unimportant, and weak. Every time I heard this, I wanted to scream at them.

Doing the right thing isn't hard and if you care about your best friend, you won't have their back on this one. It opens doors to so many future problems that could possibly put you in the middle or worse, they could help your partner cheat on you. Not stopping it shows them that they can get away with whatever they want and you will be there to support that type of behavior.

First, confront your best friend as to why you don't support them. Let them know that it is wrong and you don't want to be a part of that drama. This can also go for any other situation. That you have a moral standard and you attend to uphold that.

Second, go to the person who is being cheated on. Let them know that you are here for them and you don't support what that person is doing and mean it. Be there for anything that they need and stand your ground on the subject; the person will need a strong rock in the issue.

There are so many scenarios that I could describe to you to explain why this type of behavior is just as bad as the act itself but I think I summed it up pretty well.

Don't defend your best friend in these types of scenarios. If they don't understand or get mad; give it time and they will. You are doing this to show that you care about them and want them to be a better person. In the end, you are shown to be someone that can be trusted to do the right thing.

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Dating a girl with a big personality can be tricky. They are some of the most amazing girls but to keep them, one needs to understand them. Here are six important things you must be aware of before you give your heart to a sassy and sarcastic girl.

1. Stubborn

She is going to be the most stubborn creature you will ever meet. I say "creature" because she might actually scare you with how much she refuses to back down until you have full proof she is wrong. And if you can’t prove her wrong, just suck up your pride and let her be right or she’ll never quit. But just remember that she’s simply passionate about whatever it is and you should be proud of her for that.

2. Bluntness

She is going to be blunt. So be prepared to hear the truth. She isn’t going to care how mad you get, if you’re being rude, she won’t be afraid to put you in your place. If your choice of clothing isn’t matching, she’ll tell you. Whatever it is, she isn’t going to keep the truth from you. Sometimes it’s subtle, sometimes she’s just a little too straightforward.

3. Sensitivity

Be careful sometimes with your choice of words. Though she is blunt, she is also sensitive. Her sarcastic personality is sometimes just a defense mechanism because she fears opening up. She worries a lot and continues to ponder the things you say. Remind her she is loved.

4. Friends

She is going to have a lot more guy friends than she will have girl friends. Why? Because guys tend to find more humor in her sarcasm and don’t take it so personal, whereas other girls take it as she’s being serious and just rude. However, don’t be jealous because trust me, you’re 100 percent hers and those guy friends are just that — friends.

5. Insults

She’s not going to flirt with you by giggling and blushing and calling you cute. She’s going to call you an idiot and smack you across the shoulder or back because to her, that’s easier than being all giddy and speechless over how much she likes you. And even when she’s calling you names, which really is in all fun and games, she doesn’t mean it seriously, she’s actually just saying “I love you” in her own special language.

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If she’s short in addition to being sassy and sarcastic, you’re in for a big treat with her. She is not only going to be full of fast wit, but she is going to have so much spunk in her you won’t know what to do. She will be so feisty that she won’t be afraid of anything or anyone and you yourself won’t even know how to handle her. That’s what makes her special.

It takes a certain type of person to be able to give their heart to someone who can so easily break it with their strong headed personality. But a sarcastic and sassy girl is going to be the one girl who is going to love you with all that she has. Treat her right, and she’ll treat you right.

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To The Friend I Rarely See Anymore

I wish you nothing but the best.

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When we graduated high school, we thought it was the end for us. The distance would ruin us and we wouldn't be able to call ourselves friends. Thankfully, you were my rock for the first year of school. You were the one I turned to when the adjustment was hard or when I needed someone to talk to and just listen. We never lost our connection for a whole year. We proved that nothing could pull us apart no matter how far the distance, no matter the different schedules. We were still best friends.

Another summer came and we only got stronger. We went on countless beach trips, late night hangouts, and Starbucks runs. I didn't even think it was possible to be this much closer to you than we already were. If we weren't together, we would Snapchat or text to never stop the conversation.

Now summer ended, we didn't think twice about losing our connection this time. We had a bond stronger than anyone could fathom. We once again went our separate ways and kept our texting and Snapchat habits.

But something changed.

It must've been the comfort level of sophomore year. It must've been all the new friends we got. It must have been the boys who entered our lives. We don't speak anymore. I haven't seen you since winter break. I haven't texted you since New Year's Eve. Our connection, one that was once thought to be indestructible, came crumbling down with sophomore year. I am not going to lie, sophomore year was the best of my life, but I knew you were missing the whole time. It wasn't the same without you.

I'm not upset you chose to focus your time and life on your new boyfriend. I am happy for you. I am not upset you spend more time with your school friends. I am happy for you. I am not upset you don't text me anymore and killed our streak. I know you're living a happy life. And I am too.

We may have gone our separate ways like we never imagined, but I am happy you are finally happy. Don't forget for one second that I will always be here for you. I will still always answer your text. I will still always be your shoulder to cry on even when no one else is there for you. I wish you nothing but the best, and I hope you're doing ok.

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