New Year's resolutions are a common trend and if you're anything like me, you struggle with them every year. I always think of cliche ones like "eat healthy" or "be nice to everyone." And some years they stick, but most of the time I never seem to remember them by the time March rolls around. This year I've decided instead of creating a laundry list of things I want to improve on in the new year, to narrow it down to one resolution we should all try.
New Year's Resolution for 2017: Stop begging people to stay.
This is a pretty broad resolution, but that's the best part. It can apply to really any type of relationship that you might have or that might happen in the future. As I approach my 20s, I look back on all of the time I have wasted on people. If I didn't waste months wishing they had stayed or asking them to stay, I could've used that time to find something or someone better.
People disappoint us. You might have even disappointed someone. But that should only happen once. I always go back to the saying "fool me once shame on you, fool me twice shame on me." If a significant other does not want to treat you right, do not invite them back into your life. If a friend does not want the same loyal friendship that you do, do not invite them back into your life. If a family member takes you for granted and betrays you, do not invite them back into your life.
Of course, this is all easier said than done but it's worth a shot.
It's hard when you have a big heart and want people to need you the same way you need them, but that's not how a healthy relationship (of any kind) works. If you eliminate the negative people in your life, who only take from you and do not give, your life will change.
So stop begging that boy to take you on a date instead of just inviting you over to "chill."
Stop reaching out to that one friend that never reaches out to you when you need them to.
Stop calling that family member that has only taken from you and has never given to you.
In simple terms, stop begging people to stay in your life if they do not prove they are meant to be there. I promise, 2017 will be a year to remember if you do this.
