Welcome to 2016, where the terms, “chexting*” and “bae*” have become a normal part of our everyday conversations. I’m 19 years old and I have been in college for a year already. I thought boys in high-school made me crazy but man was I completely wrong. Boys in the college world are all sorts of intense and crazy and make you literally rip your hairs out.
Here’s me: College girl, focused on school but enjoys to party, loves to have fun but loves to settle down even more, hopeless romantic, Netflix obsessed and forever hoping that my life ends up like a beautiful love story. Enter college guy: beer, sex, more beer and has no time for girls that are super into relationships (me). The absolute worst thing in the world is finding the hottest guy, having things in common with him, realizing that this relationship could really really work and then he hits you with the “I’m not looking for a relationship right now”. I can’t tell you how many adults constantly ask me why I don’t have a boyfriend. “Anyone lucky enough yet?” They ask. “Have you found him?” They question.
The fact here is, I am a hardworking college student. I do want a boyfriend, and I always come across really cute guys but that doesn’t necessarily mean they are worth my time. This is 2016. People need to know that I don’t need a man to be happy or to be successful. I’m me and I’m happy! Yes, a boyfriend would be ideal, but boys genuinely go to college to sleep around with anyone that is willing. I am a born-to-be-in-a-relationship kind of girl, I am a failure in the casual dating world (because believe me, I’ve tried). I don’t want to have any part of waiting around for a boy to text me back or text me first. I don’t want to stop myself from going out with a group of friends and worrying what my SO* is going to think of me because I’m not by his side, or if my crop top is showing too much skin. There is no common ground here. Boys that are perfect and don’t want a relationship simply want nothing to do with you when you’ve been casually seeing each other for a couple of months and it’s time for him to meet the family. Then there are the boys that you are in a relationship with and they don’t let you breathe without making sure that your breaths are actually in the same tune at the same time. Are you kidding me?!
So to my family, and family friends, when you ask me where my boyfriend is at the next event, I’m going to direct you back to this article. Yes, I want a boyfriend, yes I have tried, but I don’t think it’s the right time for anyone. Timing is everything and I don’t want an immature boy who cares about beer and parties every day of the week or a boy that cares if my outfit is too revealing. It’s my time to have fun now too and I’m doing just that. I’m picky, I’m stubborn and I love myself too much to settle for anything less than who I am. When the time comes- because it will, we might just be your relationship goals. Until then, it’s just fun, fun, and more fun for me (and the occasional wallow and a failed casual date every once in a while).
Chexting*- Checking for texts
Bae* — shortened term for babe, baby, SO
SO* — Significant Other
