Let's All Agree To Stop Apologizing For Taking Up Space, It's Just Not Healthy

Let's All Agree To Stop Apologizing For Taking Up Space, It's Just Not Healthy

Let's stop apologizing for existing and allow others the same courtesy.


Recently, I have picked up a bad habit.

It's a habit so bad that I am going to make a jar that I will force myself to drop a quarter into when I exhibit this behavior, in the hopes that it will eliminate this habit from my life.

The habit is apologizing unnecessarily.

Sometimes, it's a reflex — like when someone bumps into you and doesn't say anything, so you feel compelled to acknowledge it. Maybe you were in their way.

Other times, it's to stop someone from being angry at you for whatever reason, even though you did nothing wrong.

Whatever the reason, if you're apologizing multiple times a day, or at times when remorse isn't a valid response to the situation, you're apologizing too much.

Some say that this habit is even a sign of anxiety. I believe it.

But it's bad. It's a bad, bad, awful habit to pick up — because you have a right to take up space. You have a right to make little mistakes or to be a little off sometimes. You have a right to be human.

And apologizing for that can be detrimental to your self-worth, as well as how others perceive you.

Don't get me wrong, apologies are important.

Appropriately acknowledging wrongdoing is showing respect for others, and it's not a practice that you should ever give up.

But apologizing for things like burning dinner or dropping something on the floor is not necessary. And if you feel like it is necessary, you may not be existing in a safe or positive environment.

And if you're one of those people who says sorry when it's not needed, then let's kick the habit.

Instead, let's replace the behavior, as Fast Company writer Anisa Purbasari Horton suggests in her piece, "How to Stop Yourself From Saying Sorry All The Time."

Let's get rid of #sorrynotsorry.

Let's turn an unnecessary sorry into a thank you.

Let's stop apologizing for existing and allow others the same courtesy.

Let's be real with ourselves and others, and only apologize when we really mean it.


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Everything You Will Miss If You Commit Suicide

The world needs you.

You won’t see the sunrise or have your favorite breakfast in the morning.

Instead, your family will mourn the sunrise because it means another day without you.

You will never stay up late talking to your friends or have a bonfire on a summer night.

You won’t laugh until you cry again, or dance around and be silly.

You won’t go on another adventure. You won't drive around under the moonlight and stars.

They’ll miss you. They’ll cry.

You won’t fight with your siblings only to make up minutes later and laugh about it.

You won’t get to interrogate your sister's fiancé when the time comes.

You won’t be there to wipe away your mother’s tears when she finds out that you’re gone.

You won’t be able to hug the ones that love you while they’re waiting to wake up from the nightmare that had become their reality.

You won’t be at your grandparents funeral, speaking about the good things they did in their life.

Instead, they will be at yours.

You won’t find your purpose in life, the love of your life, get married or raise a family.

You won’t celebrate another Christmas, Easter or birthday.

You won’t turn another year older.

You will never see the places you’ve always dreamed of seeing.

You will not allow yourself the opportunity to get help.

This will be the last sunset you see.

You’ll never see the sky change from a bright blue to purples, pinks, oranges and yellows meshing together over the landscape again.

If the light has left your eyes and all you see is the darkness, know that it can get better. Let yourself get better.

This is what you will miss if you leave the world today.

This is who will care about you when you are gone.

You can change lives. But I hope it’s not at the expense of yours.

We care. People care.

Don’t let today be the end.

You don’t have to live forever sad. You can be happy. It’s not wrong to ask for help.

Thank you for staying. Thank you for fighting.

Suicide is a real problem that no one wants to talk about. I’m sure you’re no different. But we need to talk about it. There is no difference between being suicidal and committing suicide. If someone tells you they want to kill themselves, do not think they won’t do it. Do not just tell them, “Oh you’ll be fine.” Because when they aren’t, you will wonder what you could have done to help. Sit with them however long you need to and tell them it will get better. Talk to them about their problems and tell them there is help. Be the help. Get them assistance. Remind them of all the things they will miss in life.

For help, call 1-800-273-TALK (8255).

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5 Tips To Help You Feel Better If You're Sick

A few helpful tips if there's a bug going around.


Not to brag, but I don't get sick very often, maybe once a year. When I do find myself a little under the weather, there's a few things I like to do for a faster recovery. I have no idea if any of these are 100% accurate, but I'd like to think they do. None of these will immediately make you feel better, but they'll help quicken the process.

Drink lots of water.

This one is a no-brainer, but it can be hard to do sometimes. I know when I'm sick, I definitely don't think about it. Water can help flush toxins out of your body, makes you hydrated, and can help you feel more awake and energized! If you're not a huge water drinker like I am, Tea also helps.

Stay home.

If you're sick, it's honestly better if you just take a day off and focus on feeling better. If you're worried about going to school or work, it's better that you don't spread anything. Let me just say, I'm fairly certain the last time I caught something was because someone behind me in a class was coughing through the entire lecture.


This one goes with the last point, but sleeping will help your immune system fight off any infections. It's good to take some time off and get any extra sleep you can.

Clean everything.

I like to wash all of my clothes and bed sheet, because they're what I wear and touch the most, especially my pillow cases. This will help get rid of some germs and stop them from spreading. It's also good to disinfect anything you touch often, like doorknobs and table surfaces.

Take medicine.

This one also sounds like a no brainer, but seriously if you expect to feel better soon you should be taking some sort of medicine. At the very least, it'll help with your symptoms, so you're not couching or sneezing every couple minutes.

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