10 Stages Of Saying 'Bye' Before Freshman Year Of College

10 Stages Of Saying 'Bye' Before Freshman Year Of College

Stages that everyone goes through saying the dreaded goodbyes, especially before your freshman year.


Seemingly the hardest part of leaving for school... the goodbyes.

1. The “We still have time” stage.

First few weeks of the summer, still on the post graduation Cloud Nine. You have a whoooole entire summer. (Or so you think)

2. The “Let’s get together!” Stage.


The adult equivalent of someone writing "Have a great summer" in your yearbook. Not really any meaning or motivation behind it, just kinda the polite thing to say.

3. The “Actually we should be making a plan” stage.


By the time July rolls around everyone gets their move in dates and starts planning accordingly. Graduation party season is still alive and well, so you see everyone at least once a week, and of course, you still have alllll summer.

4. The “OMG where did the time go” stage.


The end of July when Military friends start to go off to boot camp is when it starts to get real. Schedules come out, dorm shopping commences, and you're in full blown college mode. The endless summer isn't so endless after all.

5. The “Spending time with family only” stage.


Family is the most important thing and as it gets closer to move-in time, you begin to shut everyone out and just want to be around the people who matter most to you right now, even if these friends are the ones who mattered most to you the last four years.

6. The “OMG it’s ACTUALLY almost move in day” stage.


One month, two weeks.... it's all relative. The days mush and you don't know what day it is, but you do know that the big day is soon, and you have an insane amount of things to do, and only a fraction of the time you actually need to do it all. Panic starts to set in a tiny bit... you need your friends.

7. The “Actually hanging out” stage.


Something we probably should have done a while ago, before we let everything get ahead of us. Target and dorm stuff will always be there, but friends will not. As this realization sinks in, you dial your best friends and plan something that second, because life's too short to waste any more time on the ridiculous target line.

8. The “I’m so excited for us” stage.


"We're adults now!" "We're gonna go change the world!" "We are going to do great!" The positive part of sending your best friend (presumably) hundreds of miles away to live their dream. To see them happy and thriving- and them the same for you.

9. The “Emotional rollercoaster” stage.


Laughing until you cry, then crying so much you can only laugh. Thinking about saying bye is the cringiest thing, nobody knows how to act. One second you couldn't be more excited for the future, and the next you're on the couch squeezing your dog, crying scrolling through pictures of your best memories with your best friends.

10. The “Three months isn’t a long time, and we always have FaceTime” stage.


After the tears and laughs, and the final hug goodbye, you and your friends all realize that this is the 2000s, and FaceTime is a real, beautiful thing. Thanksgiving feels like forever away, but in all reality, it's just three months, and it'll fly because you'll all be living your own adventures.

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I'm The Girl Without A 'Friend Group'

And here's why I'm OK with it


Little things remind me all the time.

For example, I'll be sitting in the lounge with the people on my floor, just talking about how everyone's days went. Someone will turn to someone else and ask something along the lines of, "When are we going to so-and-so's place tonight?" Sometimes it'll even be, "Are you ready to go to so-and-so's place now? Okay, we'll see you later, Taylor!"

It's little things like that, little things that remind me I don't have a "friend group." And it's been like that forever. I don't have the same people to keep me company 24 hours of the day, the same people to do absolutely everything with, and the same people to cling to like glue. I don't have a whole cast of characters to entertain me and care for me and support me. Sometimes, especially when it feels obvious to me, not having a "friend group" makes me feel like a waste of space. If I don't have more friends than I can count, what's the point in trying to make friends at all?

I can tell you that there is a point. As a matter of fact, just because I don't have a close-knit clique doesn't mean I don't have any friends. The friends I have come from all different walks of life, some are from my town back home and some are from across the country. I've known some of my friends for years, and others I've only known for a few months. It doesn't really matter where they come from, though. What matters is that the friends I have all entertain me, care for me, and support me. Just because I'm not in that "friend group" with all of them together doesn't mean that we can't be friends to each other.

Still, I hate avoiding sticking myself in a box, and I'm not afraid to seek out friendships. I've noticed that a lot of the people I see who consider themselves to be in a "friend group" don't really venture outside the pack very often. I've never had a pack to venture outside of, so I don't mind reaching out to new people whenever.

I'm not going to lie, when I hear people talking about all the fun they're going to have with their "friend group" over the weekend, part of me wishes I could be included in something like that. I do sometimes want to have the personality type that allows me to mesh perfectly into a clique. I couldn't tell you what it is about me, but there is some part of me that just happens to function better one-on-one with people.

I hated it all my life up until very recently, and that's because I've finally learned that not having a "friend group" is never going to be the same as not having friends.

SEE ALSO: To The Girls Who Float Between Friend Groups

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13 Ways To Beat The 'Sunday Scaries'

They may not have to be as scary as you think.


It's been proven that 76% of people in the US experience "really bad" stress on Sundays, this stress known as the "Sunday Scaries" or "Sunday Blues." I have experienced the "Sunday Scaries" pretty much every Sunday since I started high school. Then, I remembered an episode of "Ned's Declassified School Survival Guide," in which Ned tried to figure out a way to not dread Mondays. He eventually convinced his teacher to play a movie on Mondays, which got me to thinking of how to not dread Sunday nights leading into Mondays. The following are 13 ways to turn your Scary Sunday into Sunday Funday.

1. Exercise

Whether it is going to the gym, taking an exercise class, going for a run, or simply taking a walk, do it. Exercise increases endorphins in your brain and benefits your physical health immensely. You will feel more productive and energized.

2. Eat well

Skip the junk food on Sundays. Junk food is loaded with sugars which can increase levels of stress and depression, and often leave you feeling hungry so you eat more. Eat a healthy dinner early in the night so that you go to bed full and satisfied.

3. Drink a lot of water

Drinking water not only throughout the day but also at night will help you to wake up more refreshed in the morning.

4. Go to bed early

I'm not saying you need 10+ hours, but get however many hours you need for a good night's sleep.

5. Write a list of what's on your mind

Writing out a list of everything running around in your head can help it feel less messy. When all of the to-dos are disorganized in your head, they can be overwhelming. By writing a list you are able to see everything that you need to do, and then it doesn't look as bad.

6. Watch your favorite show

Grey's Anatomy, Friends, The Office, Sunday Night Football, etc. Watching whatever makes you feel content and relaxed (although those SNF games can get pretty intense) is a key ingredient to relaxing for the upcoming week. Reading a good book is also a great idea!

7. Get your work done in the morning/early afternoon

Get whatever you need to get done in the morning and/or early afternoon. This way, you have the night to relax, you are not staying up late Sunday night to do last minute work, and you are able to get better sleep.

8. Plan something to look forward to on Monday morning

Plan to wake up early and make your favorite breakfast, listen to your favorite playlist, pick out an outfit you feel good in, go to your favorite coffee shop, watch your favorite show, or whatever gets you in a good mood. By having something to look forward to Monday, you are more likely to go to bed happy and excited to wake up in the morning, instead of dreading it.

9. Call your parents or friends

Call your parents, your family, your friends, etc. just to catch up. I'm sure they'd love to hear from you.

10. Listen to new music

This way you pay more attention to the music, the lyrics, the feel of it. You aren't able to push the music to your subconscious and think about all the stresses coming up in the week.

11. Write out your week in a planner 

Cry? Watch Netflix? Attempt homework? Check. Check. Maybe Check.

12. Set a goal to complete by the end of the week. 

Setting a goal allows you something to focus on that you want, not something that you need to do for others. This goal leaves room for "me time." Whether it be finding the time to watch a movie, setting up a fun night with friends, or cleaning the house throughout the week so that you don't have to do it last minute on Sunday.

13. Make stress your friend. 

In Kelly McGonigal's TED Talk, "How to Make Stress Your Friend," she explains how seeing stress as helpful can lead you to live a healthier life in two ways. The first way is that when you see stress as positive, although your heart still races, your blood cells do not constrict as they would if you thought of your stress as negative. This helps you maintain a healthier heart and decrease your risk of an early heart attack. The second way is that stress releases oxytocin, which makes you more social.

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