You Might Be Your Squad's 'Mom' If You Do These 10 Things

You Might Be Your Squad's 'Mom' If You Do These 10 Things

Every friend group has the designated "mom" friend, is it you?


A "mom" of the group is typically a female in a group of friends who make sure that everyone's having fun, being safe, and not getting arrested. Here are 10 signs you may indeed be the mom of the group.

1. You help everyone get ready 

The mom of the group typically makes sure everyone is looking their best. Yes, your boots match your cardigan, no, that winged eyeliner is not working for you and put your cleavage away, it won't make your ex-take you back.

2. You make sure friends' partners know what you're capable of

The mom of a friend group is not threatened or scared by anyone who enters their friend's life. Compared to most other friends, the mom of the group will be very vocal to insert guy whom girl A is dating here, and makes sure he knows his boundaries.

3. You make sure transportation is arranged 

Many times, the mom of the group ends up being the DD after a night out, but even if she's not, she's almost certain to already have plans arranged before anyone else questions how they'll all get home that night.

4. Your contacts consist of your friends and their family 

The mom of the group not only has their friends' contacts saved in their phone, but also the family members of their friends (in case there's an emergency, or to update them when they know their ditz friend will forget).

5. You take care of others when intoxicated yourself

Even when the mom of the group is trying to enjoy herself, if one of her cubs is upset she does the consoling always, sober or not.

6. You clean and cook at your friend's house more than they do

Despite no one enjoying cooking and cleaning all the time, the mom of the group knows it needs to be done, even if it's not for them, such as the morning after a party.

7. You remind your friends to do things 

Remember to get your flu shot, you work at 3:00 today, and you're supposed to pick up your brother tomorrow but I'll just do that for you. Mom's of the group act as a walking, breathing calendar, despite having their own priorities.

8. You're the person everyone comes to for advice 

Whether it's 12 p.m. or 2 a.m., about relationships, work or school, your friends always seem to find their way to you.

9. You know how to get out of sticky situations

Being the mom of the group means you're the one who everyone turns to when there's a decision that needs to be made, and it needs to be made fast. The mom of the friend group typical is the person most able to think out situations in a timely matter.

10. You act as the strong one

If you're the backbone to the group, the one who keeps everyone going, you're the mom of the group. Though that means you feel the need to stay strong always, and not give yourself a break, even you're definitely entitled to one!

We need to give some appreciation to the mom of our friend groups, as we probably wouldn't function well without them.

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You came out of nowhere and changed my life for the better.

“It’s so amazing when someone comes to your life and you expect nothing out of it but suddenly there right in front of you is everything you ever need.”


Dear Unexpected Best Friend,

You were the person I never thought I would speak to and now you are my very best friend. You came out of nowhere and changed my life for the better. I can’t thank you enough for everything you have done to shape me into the person I am today. You’ve taught me what it means to be selfless, caring, patient, and more importantly adventurous.

You don’t realize how much better my life has become and all because you came out of nowhere. I didn’t see you coming. I just saw you on occasion, and now I can’t see my life without you in it. It’s funny how life works itself out like that. Our unexpected friendship filled a hole in my life that I didn’t know existed.

I don’t even remember what life was like before you came along; it most likely had a lot less laughter and spontaneity than it does today. I can call you about anything and you would drop whatever you're doing to help me in any situation. You know when I need encouragement. You know when I am at my best and when I am at my worst. You always know exactly what to say.

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I couldn’t have found a better friend than you if I tried. We balance each other out in the best way possible. You are most definitely the ying to my yang, and I don’t care how cliché that sounds. Because of you, I’ve learned to stop caring what people think and to do my own thing regardless of any backlash I might receive. You are my very favorite part of what makes me who I am to this day.

It’s as if I wished up a best friend, and poof—you appeared right in front of me. I am so beyond blessed to have you and I wouldn’t trade the world for all our memories. Thanks for coming out of nowhere.

Love you forever and a day.

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I'm Proud Of My Friends Because They Show Me The True Meaning Of Love Every Day

In the midst of a competitive, harsh society of school and work, my friends teach me everyday what it means to love.


Every Christmas, our friend group does Secret Santa, our little way of celebrating the holiday season even when all of us can't meet up at one time over the break. And every summer, we all meet up with each other and spend the entire day together, taking a slew of pictures and laughing nonstop.

I've come to realize in the past school year that competitive energy can bring out the worst in people, especially the ones you expected it from the least. But I have not seen my friends waver once against the hard, cold face of competition. They've stayed completely true to themselves and the bonds they have with their close friends.

One of my friends is one of the only people I spend more time with during the day than I do by myself. She and I are currently part of a philanthropic program dedicated to raising money for blood cancer research, and we think of each other as sisters.

She and I have shared tears, memories and laughs so close to me that I will never forget the impact she has left on my life. She has changed me as a person, and I think that's what it means to love. As one of my best friends, she teaches me every single day of my life what it means to be a strong, fearless woman.

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No matter how close I consider myself to each person I call a friend, they all think about me even when they don't need to. They give me little tokens and pep talks when I'm feeling down and make sure to focus on making me cheerful when I'm not myself. They carry themselves with so much emotional elegance, and I have never been more thankful to be a part of their lives.

Every single day that I see them, they teach me how to be a better person.

What makes me proudest of my friends is that they are not afraid to put me in my place. Everything they say to me is out of concern for my well-being, but they always make sure to tell me when I'm wrong. It's something I disliked at first (considering sugarcoating was just a way of hiding the truth when I didn't want to hear it) but came to enormously respect.

They teach me the meaning of love everyday by molding me into a combination of tough love and empathy.

The friend who fights by my side everyday against blood cancers gives me a hug at the first sign that I'm not happy, but she doesn't hesitate to stop me when I start blaming other details for my mistakes. The friends who love giving gifts every holiday season to show their love when we can't see each other are the same people who explain to me the rational reasoning of a situation when my emotions take over. The friends who I see only a few times a month also teach me that there is value to having distant friends who aren't always there.

It's so strange how much I've changed because of the people I've surrounded myself with because I always say I'll stay true to myself. But I'm a mix of their individual personalities, and I've never been happier.

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