I know when you see or meet one of us that it is nearly impossible to not jump to conclusions based on our typical image. Trust me, I used to do it too, but I am here to tell you that is not how we actually are. To generalize the general sorority population by saying we party, are stuck up, party too much, and get around too easily is an extreme.

Reading this, you probably think I am just as crazy as those stereotypes, but that's okay, I did it too. I did not want to go through formal recruitment for the longest time; I wasn't sure if I was pretty, smart, or good enough. I did not think I would be able to fit in based on what I heard from friends or saw in movies. It also did not want to pay thousands of dollars just to have friends. So whatever you are thinking about us, I have been there too. But it's not like that and here is why.

When I went through recruitment, one girl took my hands on pref round and started praying for me; she did not pray for me to pick her sorority but prayed for my happiness no matter where I ended up. She genuinely cared and to this day still comforts me in my fears. We are not fake.

As a college student, you have to be smart about what you're spending money on. Yes, we may have thousands of t-shirts that we will probably never wear more than three times in our lifespan but we also bond over $9 shoes from Walmart. We are not stuck up.

A typical college experience is going to a party at least once just to see how it is. However, most Greek chapters have a dry pledge and do not support underage drinking. We are not just partiers.

Not only do most chapters have an above average GPA minimum requirement to get in, but study hours are usually required. We do care about school.

In each and every chapter, I have seen girls of several different races, heights, body types, hair color, and etc. Everyone is diverse and there stand no outliers. We are accepting.

It will be hard to believe me, I probably wouldn't if I was never viewing it from the inside, but my goal is to change the perspective of these organizations. Some girls may be more out there than others but that does not mean we are all like that.

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To the girl who is thinking about to rushing,

Do it. No matter where you end up, you will find your people and do amazing things with them. Philanthropies and community service is a great way to get involved in your town with your sisters. I do not have the most outgoing personality, prettiest face, or a bank account with commas, but the girls in my chapter made me forget about all of that and each of you girls deserve to feel that way too. To my surprise, they opened up and loved me for me.

From,

The girl who thought she didn't fit in

If you still aren't sure if it's for you, I still recommend getting involved with a club, intermural, or leadership position. Getting involved on campus opens up so many opportunities to get broaden your experiences while making new friends. But no matter what you do, please try to get to know the girl then immediately jumping to conclusions based on her Greek affiliation. We are not all the same.