Whether it's in your bed or out at a bar, everyone wants to feel like there's somewhere they belong. In reference to one of my other articles about confiding in the right person, there was something I neglected to leave out in that article: being at the right place at the right time. Many people have their own idea of where they like to be, but the truth is, there is only one place that satisfies that need.

To understand where your best place is, you have to take some things into consideration. Mainly, is the place you choose going to provide the most comfort for you? The place you know best is the one that usually provides the most comfort for you and you can always go there. However, how often you go to where you belong can also be unhealthy.

I'm not saying it's a bad thing to always be in your area of secureness, but to be there constantly does one of two things to you (sometimes both). The first thing it can do is that it can make you more on an introvert. This means that you go to your happy zone so often that it becomes almost like a routine to you and before you know it, you enter a cycle that's hard to break out of.

On top of that, you isolate yourself from the outside world and from people that are perfect for friends and relationships. As a result, you lack in communication skills and you find it difficult to communicate with others. It gets to a point to where you would rather be on your phone or laptop all day as opposed to go out to a bar with a buddy or follow up on your workout or even get your work done.

That leads into the second and final problem with being too accustomed to your place: it makes you not want to do anything else. Much like a cause of depression, you become unmotivated and less involved in activities you once loved to do. Before long, you will be turning down dates because you don't have the will to go out with anyone. You'll be turning down movie nights with old friends because you'll always use the cop-out of, "That movie sucks anyway. Heard it got bad reviews."

Being anti-social is not the end of the world, but it's a terrible quality to have due to having too much comfort in your secure area. However, it's a hell of a lot better than being in the wrong place. How do you know you're in the wrong place? Simple: your conscience tells you that you're in the wrong place. It's entirely up to you to listen to it or else consequences can come with it.

There are so many things where the wrong place boils down to, such as do the people in that environment treat you like a friend? Do the activities the other people are doing there perk your interest? Are you at least enjoying yourself in that environment? If any of the answers of those questions are "no," then you have found your wrong place to be. The wrong place to be can cause you to feel more down than you already do as if you weren't feeling down enough from hanging out in your good place enough.

If you want your internal wounds to heal and stop the rut you are stuck in, it's best to find your place of feeling secure but also living a life outside that place. No one wants to feel like they're a prisoner inside themselves. You have to leave the nest sometimes.

But being happy and feeling safe is something everyone wants to have. Just be careful with where you are and how often you're there.