Sometimes Dreams Change

Sometimes Dreams Change

Leaving behind what I thought was the rest of my life.


When asked what we want to do with our lives at such a young age, we believe that we have to have a dead set, step-by-step itinerary outlining the basis of our future. I became a victim to my own detailed itinerary that I never stopped to think, what if my plan changes?

It has been my dream to live in New York City since I was a little girl and I didn't take the opportunity when it was right in front of me a year ago. Now, though, I have decided it's my turn to prioritize my future and my happiness.

This may come as a surprise to many, but I will no longer be a Syracuse student, and before the rumors start, I would like to address why.

My career and my education will flourish in Manhattan.

I am a retail management major in Whitman and while it is a renowned business school, I don't believe it has the connections within the fashion industry I was looking for. My new school is in the heart of Manhattan with a distinct focus in fashion merchandising. Fifth Ave is also only a few blocks away and I couldn't ask for a better opportunity to pursue my dreams.

This has nothing to do with my ex-boyfriend.

It's a shame that I have to address this point, but I'm more intuitive than many believe, so I am sure this will be a hot topic of conversation.

Many people witnessed the good, the bad and the ugly of our break up, but it's been five months, it's over. We aren't in contact and we don't have influence over each other's lives. While, yes, it is nice to have a clean slate where no one knows my past or watches my present actions, it's not enough to uproot my entire life.

Our break up made the first semester harder than it needed to be, but many should know by now I am not likely to allow one individual to impact the rest of my life. It was a growing experience, nonetheless, but I make my decisions based off of what is best for me, not on the presence of the past.

First semester is hard, yes, but the type of people I met were the type I left New Jersey to get away from.

I am not here to bash the names of anyone I have met throughout the first semester, but I will simply say that it was too high school for me.

It shouldn't matter the designer label of the jacket we wear nor should it matter who we decide to sleep with at night. As we become adults, we are going to make mistakes and we are going to learn from them, but who gives each other the right to discredit another's reputation and worth based on sorority recruitment or one drunken mishap?

I take full responsibility for the mistakes I have made and I acknowledge the times where I should've taken an extra second to think before I acted. Though, the way people talk about each other and slander the names of a so-called friend does not leave me with the warmest of feelings. We're supposed to be aspiring adults, at the end of the day, so let's start acting like one.

It was the hardest decision of my life, but my family and I came to the decision together that it would be what is best for me.

It was scary at first to acknowledge that what I once believed was my dream school, turned out to be anything but, but my mom made me realize that sometimes in life plans change and we have to be ready for that change.

Uprooting my entire life for the second time within the past year is stressful in itself, but also leaving behind my best friend was not an easy decision. All-nighters in Bird Library and daily stops at Chipotle on Marshall are memories unique to our friendship and it's heartbreaking to think I won't be there to create more.

I'll be living in a new city with new people and it's terrifying to have this clean slate, but it's also beautiful. Not many people receive the opportunity to pursue what they're truly passionate about and I thank, from the bottom of my heart, my family and my friends for all of the love and support I have received through this time.

People will talk regardless and they may do as they please. In the end, my family and my closest friends know the truth.

Regardless of the mistakes I made first semester, I will never speak poorly on behalf of Syracuse because the university truly did provide me with unforgettable experiences and two of my lifelong best friends. It just wasn't the best fit for me and I wish everyone the best of luck in their future endeavors.

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It doesn't take much...

1. When class is canceled.

2. When the coffee shop you stop at five minutes before your 8 a.m. has a short line.

3. Coffee, coffee, coffee.

4. Open note tests.

5. Or even better, take home tests.

6. The unofficial assigned seating process that that takes place after the first week or so of classes.

7. Thursday nights. (because in college, Thursday qualifies as the weekend.)

8. Sales.

9. Or once again, even better, free things.

10. Specifically free food.

11. Dogs.

12. Dogs on campus.

13. Tailgates and Saturday afternoon football games.

14. Finding an already completed Quizlet for your exam.

15. Having an extra 30 minutes for a nap, and if you're lucky, an hour.

16. Netflix.

17. When your roommate takes out the trash.

18. Weekends after test weeks.

19. The rare blessing of a curve on an exam.

20. Getting out of class early.

21. How in college, it is socially expectable to wear a t-shirt everyday.

22. Being able to walk from class to class or eat in the dining hall without having to see anyone you know. (and thank goodness too because you probably don't look too good.)

23. Crossing things off of your to-do list.

24. Your best-friends that you make in college.

25. A full tank of gas.

26. Seeing a new face everyday.

27. Crawling back into bed after your 8 or 9 a.m. (or after any class that ends with a.m.)

28. Care packages.

29. No cover charges.

30. When adults tell you that it is okay that you have no idea what you want to do with your life yet. (regardless of what parents or your advisor may say.)

31. Pizza.

32. Finding out you weren't the only one who did poorly on the exam.

33. Deciding not to buy the textbook, and never needing it.

34. Finding the perfect gif to express how you're feeling. (Michael Scott just get it.)

35. Weekends at home because...

36. Pets.

37. Mom's home cooked pie and Dad's steak dinners,

38. Spring Break.

39. Road trips.

40. When it finally starts to cool down outside so you can show up to class dry instead of dripping in sweat.

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No Matter What You Do In Life, Do What You Love

Do what you love.


No matter what you do in life, do what you love. What's the point in dedicating your entire week to something you have no love for? Think about how hard it is to get out of bed for your weekend shift at the grocery store–now picture doing that five or more days a week.

Whatever your grocery store looks like, don't chase it. Find something that you want to wake up for. Choose a path that makes you feel empowered. Choose a path that makes you feel whole. If money is the most important thing to you, then it's okay to let it drive you. If you care about something enough, you'll happily get up every day to make it a reality.

Money doesn't make me happy. Money makes life easier. Money makes me more relaxed, but it also makes me unhappy if it's garnered through something I don't love. I chose a career path that wouldn't yield fortunes because I know myself. I'm far too miserable to slide out of bed and shrug through every day at a job I don't enjoy. I'm far too sad to go on living that way for a prolonged period of time.

When deciding what you want to truly pursue, look at why you keep going every day. Do you enjoy being creative? Do you enjoy working with animals? Whatever brings you ultimate joy can ultimately bring you joy. Do what you love and forget the rest. No matter what you decide to do, everyone will have something to say about it. So, why not choose something that you don't mind defending.

No matter what you do in life, do what you love. You won't give up on something you love. You won't look back and regret doing something you loved. Life isn't perfect. Life is short. So, for God's sake, spend it doing the things you love.

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