Sometimes Confident People Are the Most Insecure

Sometimes Confident People Are the Most Insecure

Confidence and apprehensiveness go hand in hand.

Confidence is defined as a feeling of self-assurance and a deep appreciation for your own abilities. Have you ever met that one person who just has effortless confidence? Those people are charismatic and natural leaders. Everyone strives to be confident in themselves, but it is not as easy as it seems. From a young age, I have been told that I appear to be a very confident person. However, that is not the case. Some people (myself included), who have a distinct air of confidence about them are far from self-assured.

Yes, we may have a tough exterior, but on the inside lays a very fragile and sensitive soul. In the words of the singer SIA:

“Well, I've got thick skin and an elastic heart,

But your blade—it might be too sharp

I'm like a rubberband until you pull too hard,

Yeah, I may snap and I move fast

But you won't see me fall apart

'Cause I've got an elastic heart.”

These lyrics speak truth to so many people. We may put up a wall, but if you break our walls down, it takes us forever to rebuild. Behind our wall of confidence is where our insecurities stay. So close to the wall, that even a crack in the bricks may cause some of them to come flooding out.

Society tells us we have to be outgoing to succeed. Confidence is usually a façade for what we are hiding underneath. Sometimes it is easier to personify your insecurities than to hide them away. There is no better way to convince people you are confident than being outgoing and brazen about all things even though you are cringing at the attention inside. Sometimes to compensate for our insecurities we may say something that can be construed as mean. We do not intend to offend, it just sometimes happens. Trying to make ourselves feel like enough can come at the expense of others, which is hard to realize. If we happen to say something rude, we are eternally sorry, sometimes our insecurities and frustrations manifest in this way.

It is important to remember that everyone you meet is going through more than you know, regardless if someone is the most assertive person you come into contact with or they are more reserved. Keep in mind that just because someone is confident does not mean they are not dealing with a lot of personal effects.

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15 Texts We'd Get From Dogs If They Had Thumbs

"If you're reading this, send Milk Bones."

Let's be real, anyone who has a dog knows that it if we could, we would text our dogs all day long. If they could text us, our thread would look something like...

1. "Are you coming home soon?! Let's go out!"

2. "So not to be weird... but you never ended up answering me last night... Am I the good boy? Idk I just want to be clear on our relationship I don't want to be lead on if I'm not."

3. "The cat is being such a bit** I literally can't stand her"

4. "Hey, just wondering, are you going to wear those black booties tonight? If you are, I'll chew the zipper out of the brown ones instead."

5. "Okay, so don't freak out, but something not so chill happened on the rug..."

6. "Are there any leftovers in the trash? I'm not gonna get into it, I was just curious. Love u."

7. "If you're reading this... bring Milk Bones."

8. "Hey, what's for dinner tonight?! Purina again?"

9. "Miss you!!"

10. "Are you gonna eat that food on the counter or is that for everyone? Asking for the cat."

11. "I LOVE YOU"

12. "OMG, I can't wait for you to come home on break! Can you sleep in the guest room tho? Mom said I could have your room when you moved out. Love u!"

13. "Ice cream date later?!"

14. "We should go for a walk I need to get my ass back in shape for summer. You should be my workout buddy!"

15. "Netflix and chill tonight?"

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What Your Favorite Thanksgiving Food Says About You

What Thanksgiving food is your favorite?


As Thanksgiving is fast approaching and family members start rolling with loads of food in tow, figure out what your favorite Thanksgiving food says about you.

1. The Turkey

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You are a traditionalist, you are dependable as well as patient. You depend on your dish to be there and you are patient as others argue over dark to light as you know there will be plenty to go around after the mad rush is over.

2. The Stuffing

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You are the warm and fuzzy type, you enjoy the coziest of all dishes which can sometimes leave you emotionally exhausted. You believe in true love and if you haven't found it you are still probably looking for that missing Turkey in your life.

3. The Mash Potatoes 

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While some will consider you basic and they aren't wrong in thinking so but you do occasionally add some spice to your daily planned out routine. The pondering question of to add gray or to not does add a little mix into your life.

4. The Rolls

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You enjoy the simple things in life, even the simplest of things bring you great joy and happiness. Fall is full of the little things that make you happy the color changing of leaves, the giggle of a baby at your family gathering, fall is a wonderful time for you.

5. The Cranberry Dish

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You are sweet and sassy, when life becomes tart you sugar coat your problems in a way that keeps you from having to deal with them directly. So as the weather begins to get icy think about meeting your problems head on!

6. The Vegetable 

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You are conscious, you feel the holidays are no reason to get crazy and forget all about your healthy eating. You gladly signed up for this year's turkey trot because getting healthy is always a conscious choice!

7. The Pie

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You are quite the rebel whether you show it or keep it in the inside you know you want your dessert first! You enjoy having fun and don't feel like waiting around to have your pie and eat it, too.

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