Something went wrong? Great! How can you use this mistake to help you learn?

Something went wrong? Great! How can you use this mistake to help you learn?

Because there is always a way...

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Have you ever had a heartbreak that turned into a lesson learned? Or how about encountered a challenge that you now have become a "pro" at?

Life has obstacles, mess ups, bumps in the road, and even failures. Each and every one of these can all teach you something and help you grow. Sometimes when something doesn't go as planned we automatically take it as if the world has ended or that we completely failed. Instead of looking for the light at the end of the tunnel or what good can come from the situation.

Growth Mindset

To avoid this we have to build a "growth mindset" and also begin to realize that a good thing can come from hard times. When you have a growth mindset, you believe that you are in control of your own ability. You also believe that you can constantly grow to become better, stronger, and smarter. This is the key to success.

Without a growth mindset, you quit putting in an effort and begin to doubt yourself. Also, you see any failures as the finish line rather than the beginning.

Since I have conquered a positive mindset, this past year. I have noticed how much obstacles can build your path and make you, you. Instead of seeing mess ups as a setback, I see them as a new way to learn and gain exposure to a problem. This has really guided me to learn more about the situation and put in the effort to avoid making that same mistake again.

For example, I was in an abusive relationship for almost two years and at the ending point, I thought I was a failure. I thought I wasted my time, got physically and emotionally hurt, and even heartbroken. I didn't think it could get any worse... That is, until it hit me. I began to see that this break up had taught me many many things. Never would I catch myself settling for less than I deserve again.

Carissa Davis

Also, I grew in so many ways. My standards got higher, personal development became a priority for me, and I no longer let one person control me.

And you can do this too!

Whether you are in a bad relationship, just got fired from a job, or even got in a car accident. Whatever it may be. There is a learning lesson from this. You can grow from this pain. You can take something bad and make something good out of it.

By grabbing my FREE e-Book, "How To Conquer A Positive Mindset" on my personal blog, you can find out more ways to achieve this!

Hope to see you there!

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Everything You Will Miss If You Commit Suicide

The world needs you.
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You won’t see the sunrise or have your favorite breakfast in the morning.

Instead, your family will mourn the sunrise because it means another day without you.

You will never stay up late talking to your friends or have a bonfire on a summer night.

You won’t laugh until you cry again, or dance around and be silly.

You won’t go on another adventure. You won't drive around under the moonlight and stars.

They’ll miss you. They’ll cry.

You won’t fight with your siblings only to make up minutes later and laugh about it.

You won’t get to interrogate your sister's fiancé when the time comes.

You won’t be there to wipe away your mother’s tears when she finds out that you’re gone.

You won’t be able to hug the ones that love you while they’re waiting to wake up from the nightmare that had become their reality.

You won’t be at your grandparents funeral, speaking about the good things they did in their life.

Instead, they will be at yours.

You won’t find your purpose in life, the love of your life, get married or raise a family.

You won’t celebrate another Christmas, Easter or birthday.

You won’t turn another year older.

You will never see the places you’ve always dreamed of seeing.

You will not allow yourself the opportunity to get help.

This will be the last sunset you see.

You’ll never see the sky change from a bright blue to purples, pinks, oranges and yellows meshing together over the landscape again.

If the light has left your eyes and all you see is the darkness, know that it can get better. Let yourself get better.

This is what you will miss if you leave the world today.

This is who will care about you when you are gone.

You can change lives. But I hope it’s not at the expense of yours.

We care. People care.

Don’t let today be the end.

You don’t have to live forever sad. You can be happy. It’s not wrong to ask for help.

Thank you for staying. Thank you for fighting.

Suicide is a real problem that no one wants to talk about. I’m sure you’re no different. But we need to talk about it. There is no difference between being suicidal and committing suicide. If someone tells you they want to kill themselves, do not think they won’t do it. Do not just tell them, “Oh you’ll be fine.” Because when they aren’t, you will wonder what you could have done to help. Sit with them however long you need to and tell them it will get better. Talk to them about their problems and tell them there is help. Be the help. Get them assistance. Remind them of all the things they will miss in life.

For help, call 1-800-273-TALK (8255).

Cover Image Credit: Brittani Norman

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7 Ways To Calm Your Mind, Body, And Soul During An Anxiety Attack

It is OK not to be OK.

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Everyone gets anxiety attacks whether you will admit it or not. Seven little things that help me find my inner peace are ones I feel everyone should be aware of.

1. Try the "5, 4, 3, 2, 1" grounding exercise.

Answer these five questions out loud for sensory awareness:

What are five things you can see?

What are four things you can feel?

What are three things you can hear?

What are two things you can smell?

What is one thing you love about yourself?

2. Try out this breathing .GIF.

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3. Listen to a song that reduces your anxiety.

4. Use some lavender oil.

Rub it on your temples.

Put some on your wrists.

Inhale.

*Calming.*

5. Tense up your muscles (and then relax).

This may sound counter-intuitive, but just give it a try:

Start tensing at your toes and move up through your body — legs, abdomen, arms, neck, and jaw. Hold it for four counts. Then, relax your muscles. Feel the tension melt out of you.

6. Download an app on your phone.

There are my top apps for helping with anxiety (and they are FREE):

"Recolor" (a coloring book app).

"Wordscapes" (like a crossword puzzle).

"PicrossLUNA" (kind of a play-off of sudoku).

"Words With Friends 2" (just like Scrabble).

7. Reach into your freezer and grab an ice cube.

Just one of many distraction methods.

Reach into the freezer and grab an ice cube or an ice pack.

Hold it firmly in your hand.

Place it on your toes.

The idea is to distract your mind from anything else.

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