When I was younger, I had believed that I would have to be drop-dead gorgeous to make my future husband love me. Like, model gorgeous. And there was always this thing you would see on TV with these beautiful young women marrying these really old guys. But then I got older and realized that I never, ever want to be someone's "trophy wife." Ever.
First off, I'm definitely not in the trophy-wife category. I'm not a size zero, with fake boobs and a butt lift. I don't have the stereotypical bleached blonde hair. I don't ever want to put my face through unnecessary plastic surgery, and I prefer to not show too much cleavage. And I hate attention. I don't understand how all of those women can just sit there and look pretty enough for everyone else to stare at. To be the center of attention based on nothing else but her looks.
But let's take a break from how these women usually look, shall we? Let's dive into the insult of the title "trophy wife." The definition of a trophy wife is, "A young, attractive woman married to an older, powerful man." The definition continues by basically saying the that only roles of this woman are for sex and to remind others that this man is rich and powerful. So basically, these men are using these women to make themselves look better. No thanks, I don't feel like being used by a man. I have a bit more respect for myself than that.
Definition aside, the title is still insulting. When you think of a trophy, you think about it as something won, am I right? As a woman, I find it insulting to think that a man could believe that he "won" me. Uh, no. I am not an object. I cannot be won like some stupid sixth-grade soccer trophy.
Let's take a second, now, to think about what the trophy wife typically wants from this sort of relationship. Trophy wives are usually tied to those who are often known as "sugar daddies," or old men who are super wealthy and marry younger women. It might not be true in every case, but most trophy wives seem to target the man's money instead of his love in exchange for her sex and beauty. So not only is the man using the woman, but the woman is, in turn, using the man. What? I don't know about you, but I know I would feel guilty as hell if I were to use someone like the people in these relationships typically do.
So, yeah, I will never be someone's "trophy wife." I don't really desire the whole "use and be used" type of relationship. I'm all about that love and respect, though.
