Ever since I was a little girl, I dreamed of being a Princess. I pictured myself living in a beautiful castle with a breath-taking view of my kingdom, wearing gorgeous gowns, and, of course, being swept away by a charming prince.
Of course, not all dreams come true. I will probably never wear expensive gowns or rule over a kingdom of my own; but someday, my prince will come.
But until then, I won’t waste my time.
Our generation today dreads the status “single”. The search of finding “the one” consumes our lives and ultimately leads to discontentment. But singleness is not a curse but a precious gift and we should view it as such!
Elizabeth Elliot says in her book Passion and Purity that being in a relationship is not “an inadequate status for deep personal growth.” Marriage or dating is not the only adequate status for deep personal growth! You can and should use this season of singleness to better ourselves for your future spouse.
“Think of being single as a time when God is preparing you for your future. Every minute, every hour, every month, every year of singleness is a crucial part of your preparation and journey to meet your potential future love.”
-Kyle and Kelsey Kupecky (The Chase)
But in this journey of bettering ourselves, we need to be careful of the attitude of “I need to find a boyfriend!” or “I need to find my husband!”. If we are trusting God with our happily ever after, we should be thinking, “I can’t wait to meet him, God but I trust in you to figure out the details”. Kyle and Kelsey also talk about this in their book, which I highly suggest you read!
While you wait, be confident in your singleness. If you are not happy and content with yourself, then you will NEVER be happy and content with someone else. Contentment is not found in your significant other. They are imperfect and are going to let you down. We must find our joy and contentment in Christ first, above all.
I’ve been waiting almost 19 years and will be waiting as long as God wills it. And that’s OK. I’ll admit some days it is extremely hard to be patient and leave my prince in my Heavenly Father’s hand. I do long to meet him and it is perfectly fine to have this desire, it is God-given. But Charles Stanley says, “Our willingness to wait reveals the value we place on the object we are waiting for.” I know that my own unique fairytale will be something completely worth the wait because I have placed it in God’s hands.
So, if you’re single, don’t be ungrateful for your precious singleness. Don’t be so distracted with the search that you lose opportunities that are only good for single people. Use it for deep personal growth!
Someday, your prince will come but until then don't waste your time.
