Stop Letting Social Media Run Your Life, Start Living In The Now

Stop Letting Social Media Run Your Life, Start Living In The Now

If I was at a restaurant with my friends, I wouldn't think twice before whipping out my phone and taking a flick of the display of food on the table for my Snapchat story.

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It's insane how time, place, and company affect our behaviors when it comes to technology. You wouldn't use your phone in a movie or during a funeral the same way we do when we're out and about in public. If I was at a restaurant with my friends, I wouldn't think twice before whipping out my phone and taking a flick of the display of food on the table for my Snapchat story. After all, the camera eats first.

When I'm with my parents, however, I hesitate to do this. I think part of the reason for my acting differently in these two situations is a sort of embarrassment. I know my mom will ask who I'm sending this to or my dad will make some sort of comment mocking my need to document my meal for social media. It's embarrassing how reliant I am on my phone in general, and how dependent I am on letting my 200 Snapchat viewers know what I am doing at every moment of my life.

I'm currently working on a simple video project for the media class I'm taking. The assignment is to capture the essence of an off-campus location, so I walked around George Street with my phone out capturing specific moments that seemed of interest. Creating this video is proving to be a lot different than I would've thought. Even though it should seem obvious, I was shocked that there is so much to take into consideration when creating such a project, between the content, audio, what's in the frame, and more. I know I'm an art major who primarily paints, and I'm forced to take this fundamental media class, but it should not feel this difficult to capture these locations with my camera.

Ironically, I spend a good amount of time recording and seeing the world through the camera on my phone. I'm constantly snapping videos of my friends, myself, or things I'm experiencing like sporting events or concerts. Shooting your surroundings for the purpose of art, however, is a lot different than Snapchatting your friend acting like a goof. It felt unnatural to record people going about their everyday lives and to see the world around me as art through the camera lens.

We are constantly snapping videos to send to friends or post on their social media, and often will pause moments of our lives to whip out our phone and engage with a digital world rather than the real world in front of us. We take photos for the sentiment of it, to capture these moments and save them in our own memory or to share with others. Present day fascination with social media encourages this behavior more than ever.

Sharing your life on these platforms is somewhat of an addiction. It's really hard to fight the urge to take that photo or to resist the gratification of a new Instagram post. I kind of agree with where my parents are coming from when they make fun of me in the restaurant, because it really is comical how reliant my peers and I are on our phones, cameras, and social media followers.

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I'm A Woman And You Can't Convince Me Breastfeeding In Public Is OK In 2019

Sorry, not sorry.

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Lately, I have seen so many people going off on social media about how people shouldn't be upset with mothers breastfeeding in public. You know what? I disagree.

There's a huge difference between being modest while breastfeeding and just being straight up careless, trashy and disrespectful to those around you. Why don't you try popping out a boob without a baby attached to it and see how long it takes for you to get arrested for public indecency? Strange how that works, right?

So many people talking about it bring up the point of how we shouldn't "sexualize" breastfeeding and seeing a woman's breasts while doing so. Actually, all of these people are missing the point. It's not sexual, it's just purely immodest and disrespectful.

If you see a girl in a shirt cut too low, you call her a slut. If you see a celebrity post a nude photo, you call them immodest and a terrible role model. What makes you think that pulling out a breast in the middle of public is different, regardless of what you're doing with it?

If I'm eating in a restaurant, I would be disgusted if the person at the table next to me had their bare feet out while they were eating. It's just not appropriate. Neither is pulling out your breast for the entire general public to see.

Nobody asked you to put a blanket over your kid's head to feed them. Nobody asked you to go feed them in a dirty bathroom. But you don't need to basically be topless to feed your kid. Growing up, I watched my mom feed my younger siblings in public. She never shied away from it, but the way she did it was always tasteful and never drew attention. She would cover herself up while doing it. She would make sure that nothing inappropriate could be seen. She was lowkey about it.

Mindblowing, right? Wait, you can actually breastfeed in public and not have to show everyone what you're doing? What a revolutionary idea!

There is nothing wrong with feeding your baby. It's something you need to do, it's a part of life. But there is definitely something wrong with thinking it's fine to expose yourself to the entire world while doing it. Nobody wants to see it. Nobody cares if you're feeding your kid. Nobody cares if you're trying to make some sort of weird "feminist" statement by showing them your boobs.

Cover up. Be modest. Be mindful. Be respectful. Don't want to see my boobs? Good, I don't want to see yours either. Hard to believe, I know.

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9 Important Tweets I Love And Live By Every Day

The tweets I have selected impact me and make me question myself and my everyday life experiences.

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During my free time, I love to explore Twitter. It's basically an accumulation of everyone's point of view on the vaguest to most intricate topics.

Here are some Tweets I live by:

1. "Everybody that comes into your life matters, they're either a blessing or a lesson"

In life people come and go, just like flies. Everyone you meet in life has a purpose. The boy you had your worst heartbreak with, he was a blessing, now he's a lesson of what you don't want in the future. Although it hurt you, in the end, you will be stronger because you had to endure pain.

2. "Live, and not from behind your phone screen"

People, put down your phone and actually experience what's going on. To be honest, do half the people on your Snapchat actually care about what you're doing? Do they even view it or just tap through it? These days people solely post on social media so people can see what they're doing. Half the time when people are too busy on their phone's posting away, they don't even pay attention to the people they're with, the pretty views they're looking at, and better yet some people even fake it for desired attention.

3. "Can't"

The word can't be simply just an excuse, it is all about prioritizing. If someone really wants to see you, they'll make the time. If someone wants to go somewhere, they will. Silly excuses derive from utter laziness, but at the end of the day, everyone CAN.

4. "You care too much

"Do not ever let someone tell you that you care too much. Yea, overthinking is one thing but showing someone how you feel towards them, asking about their day, how they are, etc. At the end of the day being there for those you care about will be returned in your favor. Being affected with human feelings is imperative and if someone tells you that you care too much, tell them to f ***off."

5. "It's a lonely feeling when someone you care about becomes a stranger."

In life, unfortunately, people come and go. The person you would laugh with for hours, stay up till 5 am talking to every day, hang out with on an everyday basis, etc. In life we cannot depend on others for our own happiness, we can't force people to stay in our lives because they're part of an everyday routine. Make your happiness a priority, & Be there for others, but never leave yourself behind. Ultimately at the end of the day, you have "me, myself, and I "to worry about. You have to make decisions in life that will make you happy. If you think something you do will upset someone, talk to them because at the end of the day if something is going to make you happier, your friend will understand. Self-care!!!!

6. "Never run back to what broke you."

Ladies and gentlemen, if something seriously tore you apart ... DO NOT go running back as soon as you get hit with that "wyd" or "I've changed" text. We all do it, there's no lying allowed here, but seriously if something broke you, people don't just change in the snap of a finger. You will get hurt again. It will NOT be worth it.

7. "Always hope but never expect."

If you're like me, you'll spend hours a day before bed thinking about all of the "what if "situations there are in your life. Sometimes you'll get so into thought you may even think something happened. If you dwell and think of all of the possible scenarios, you will drive yourself physically insane.

8. "You'll heal. It just takes time."

Use the tissues, and a friend's shoulder to lean on. Everything that kills you on the inside eventually will make you stronger. A breakup with a boyfriend/ girlfriend, losing a friend, failing a test, etc. These are all part of the learning process in life.

9. "Make your happiness a priority, & Be there for others, but never leave yourself behind."

Ultimately at the end of the day, you have "me, myself, and I "to worry about. You have to make decisions in life that will make you happy. If you think something you do will upset someone, talk to them because at the end of the day if something is going to make you happier, your friend will understand. Self-care!!!!

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