Social media has taken over our world. We all know it and we all love to show off the high points of our lives on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter. With this new age of technology, comes an age of new problems. One of those problems is navigating a relationship. Everyone wants to brush this subject under the rug and not discuss it. Women choose to ignore it because they don't want to be called crazy. Men want to ignore it so they don't get called out for anything they're doing on social media. Well, here I am, so call me crazy if you want.
Here's the deal: these days, social media is actually a very important part of a relationship. I mean think about it.
If your significant other is posting all the time, but won't post a photo of you two together despite the fact that you've asked them to, don't you think that's kind of red flag? If they constantly like or comment on photos of other men/women that are explicit or revealing, don't you think that's kind of shady? Don't you think it's strange that your boyfriend will post a picture with his shirt off and shorts pulled up to show off his thighs, but won't post a picture of the two of you? Don't you think it's a bit odd that your girlfriend will post a video of her roommate eating a snack to her Snapchat story but won't post any pictures when you two go out on dates? I think so.
Point blank, if your significant other is active on social media but never indicates that he/she is in a relationship, that's cause for concern.
Now, I don't mean to go home and call them up and yell at them. But it is worth talking about. If they can claim every other aspect of their life to be public, why can't they claim you?
One argument that I cannot stand is: "I want to keep our relationship private." Okay cool. Do that. News Flash: you can keep a relationship private and still occasionally post a photo with your SO or have your profile pic be one of the two of you. Privacy and sharing on social media don't have to be mutually exclusive.
Regarding the whole liking/commenting on revealing photos, people love to say, "It's just social media." Okay, that's fine. But if it's just social media then why is it a big deal to stop liking and commenting on that girl's photos? If it's just social media, then why do refuse to stop commenting heart eye emojis on the gym photos of that one guy you knew in high school? If it's just social media, then why refuse to post photos of you and your SO?
At the end of the day, social media is so prominent in today's world that it DOES matter when it comes to relationships. It matters if your SO refuses to claim you on social media. I'm not saying it's cause for a breakup or a huge fight, but it is worth a discussion at the least, especially if you're unhappy with how your SO is using social media.
