Ladies, Stop Comparing Yourself To That Girl With The Big Butt You Wish You Had And Focus On YOU
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Ladies, Stop Comparing Yourself To That Girl With The Big Butt You Wish You Had And Focus On YOU

Comparing yourself to others is only going to rob you of your own happiness.

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Ladies, Stop Comparing Yourself To That Girl With The Big Butt You Wish You Had And Focus On YOU
Bridget Delorme

Summer is finally here... so, you know what that means. Endless bikini posts on your feed.

As someone who has previously struggled and ultimately overcame the war with self-body image I am here to tell you at the start of bikini pic season (and all of the time) to STOP comparing yourself to your followers, by-passers, friends, family, the Kardashians, etc.

You are not that girl that you obsess over on Instagram, and you aren't the girl with the big butt you wish to have that just passed by.

You are you and no one else and that is what makes you and every other woman so powerful.

Comparing yourself to everyone you see on social media does nothing but hurt your own self-esteem and confidence. You were born with your own set of hips, your own breasts, your own curves or lack of, your own thick thighs or thigh gap and that is what makes you, YOU.

Besides, the girl you stalk on Instagram craving the hair, the body, the thigh gap or whatever that she has maybe wishing she had the curves, hair, or butt that you or another woman has.

Nothing you see is ever what it seems to be and that is why you should love yourself endlessly and stop the comparisons.

You are given a life to live and comparing yourself to others is only going to hinder you from living it to the fullest. Instead, I encourage you to start by learning to love yourself so much that you can begin to fully accept the life, the body, and the followers that someone you used to compare yourself to was given.

We as women are all here trying to make a life for ourselves and there is no reason for us to be in competition with one another.

I have noticed that not only does comparison put a wrench in your own self-esteem but it also turns into hatred towards the women you are comparing yourself to. Endless accounts of comparison to another person cause you to build so much distaste for that person because comparison turns to jealousy. In reality, all of the loathing you have done was over a body part that is literally impossible for you to attain because that's just your DNA or something you could easily attain by going to the gym, eating healthy, etc.

Therefore, take a look in the mirror.

Take a deep breath.

Tell yourself that you love you every day.

Love yourself so much that no one can tell you anything to destroy your own self-image. Let the love inside and block the negative feelings that come about from comparing yourself to others. Then, take a look at other women.

Change your attitude and your perspective.

Start to look at other women and think "Wow, that's a nice booty" or "Daaanng she looks amazing." There's no rationale in looking at others and comparing yourself if you love what you already have.

Once you begin to love yourself entirely it is then time to empower other women and compliment them for what you love about them.

This attitude change will create a world of endless possibilities for all women.

This change will make you feel lighter because you will finally let go of the hostile thoughts of yourself and the women you choose to compare yourself to.

This change will open up innumerable amounts of doors because you will be radiating with self-love and confidence and you will look as lovely as ever.

This change could be the change that transforms your life for the better forever.

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