Don't you mean fat-shaming? No, I don't. Skinny-shaming is real, believe it or not.
"Why would anyone ever shame the skinny girl? We would all die to have her body!"
That's exactly it, you would all die to have our bodies. But, what if we would do the same for yours? Skinny girls aren't just happy-go-lucky because we have a slim figure. I want curves! I want to have bigger breasts and a nice-sized behind! It's not all rainbows and sunshine in the thin world. More often than not, your "compliments" on our figure don't fuel our confidence. If anything, our confidence goes down.
Please don't ask me how much I eat, or how much I weigh. Don't question how much food I can put away when we sit down for dinner, because chances are I would win in any sort of food eating contest. Don't make jokes about the size of my chest, or butt. I am already insecure about them; you don't need to make the storm of insecurity any bigger than it already is. I don't want to hear you demand me to "eat a hamburger" or "put some meat on those bones." I'd rather not hear the words "it must be so nice, to be so thin" come out of your mouth.
"How can you be so insecure when you're so small?" Seriously? Just read any of the examples I gave you above. I don't understand why my body must always be the topic of discussion. It is really not that interesting.
"You have the body of a young boy."
I know. You don't think I know that? You don't think I see that every time I look in a mirror? Do you think that is something that I really want to hear from you?
Fat-shaming sucks, don't get me wrong. The things people say are awful and quite disgusting. But please don't forget about us. You think you are being kind and sincere when you comment on our petite figures, but honestly, you're not. You're making it worse.
If one took the time they used to comment on our bodies (large and small) and used it to compliment them (I mean really compliment them), it would be a different world. Examples? "You look nice today." "I really like that top on you." "That color looks so good on you."
Don't comment on our food intake (or lack thereof), or the size of our bodies.
Together, we can take a stand against all types of body shaming, or just shaming in general. Everyone is the way they are for a reason and those reasons you might not always be aware of. Let's put the body shaming to rest, focus on complimenting their inner beauty, intelligence, humor. Something they have control over, something they can be proud of.
