2016 was a rough year for most people. At least that's how everyone likes to describe it. I keep hearing so many people talking about how glad they are that 2016 is ending and how 2017 is definitely going to be "their year." Except we say this every year and it seems as though that never really works out as planned. I'll admit, 2016 wasn't exactly the best year of my life but I learn some new things every year, and 2016 was not omitted from that. In honor, here are the sixteen things 2016 taught me.
1. Having patience is key.
Yes, I am starting off with something that probably seems cliche. Despite that, when I think back to New Years last year, this is the thought that comes to mind. Waiting for some things ends up being worth it in the end. Even if it feels like you are waiting forever, having patience means good things will come in the end.
2. First impressions will change.
Everyone wants you to see them a certain way when they first meet you. Especially when their goal is to make a good first impression on you. If they're forced to make a good first impression, know that isn't how they always will be. The first impression can stay the same, or the first impression can change. Be prepared for it to change though.
3. Some people are good at pretending.
Trust is a good things to give to people. You should be able to trust your friends. But some people are very good at seeming like they are someone they aren't. Be a little wary when giving your trust to people so easily, but that doesn't mean stop giving it altogether.
4. Forgiving and forgetting can work.
Holding grudges might seem like you have the upper hand, but they only do you damage in the long run. Sometimes forgiving someone can be the best thing for you. Forgetting what they did might be harder, but it might be what you need. Some people do deserve forgiveness.
5. Quitting doesn't make you weak.
You're not meant to finish everything you start. I'm not talking about schoolwork here, you should finish that. What I mean is that some activities you do or some groups of people you're with aren't the right fit. Quitting what doesn't help you grow is okay.
6. Helping people will always feel good.
Volunteer work and community service are some of the best things in life. Helping others isn't just going to make them feel good; helping others will help you feel good too. Taking time out of your life to make someone else's life better feels like a gift.
7. Doing what makes you nervous can be empowering.
Trying new things you wouldn't normally do can seem like a daunting task. Overcoming those nerves and anxieties can make you feel like a stronger person. That can also lead to great new things in life.
8. Don't let other people keep you from enjoying life.
Some people will try their hardest to bring you down no matter what. Some people might be bitter, and that's okay. Ignoring people and still enjoying life and what's around you is important in maintaining your happiness.
9. You don't always have to do what's expected.
People will expect you to do a lot of things. Things that other people your age do, things that will help them, and things that they think will help you. You don't have to do that if you don't want to. Do what will really help you.
10. Not everyone misses high school.
Yes, this one isn't as broad as the others, but this is one of the most important to me. I don't miss high school. Yes I do know plenty of people who do, and yes people told me I would. The truth is, I don't. And not everyone will.
11. Spending time alone is healthy.
Being around people all the time isn't normal. You need time alone to think and get to know yourself. Being grounded with you and your mind will help you feel better mentally, so take time away.
12. Don't apologize when an apology isn't necessary.
I always find myself saying sorry for something I didn't do. Or saying sorry just because someone else expects it. If you don't actually need to apologize, then don't. Sorry comes out of our mouths way too easily.
13. Think things through.
Taking time to think before you act is important. Being impulsive doesn't help you and can lead to harsh consequences. Thinking about a situation can help you come up with the best conclusions and answers.
14. Enjoy each moment.
Time flies so quickly, especially as you keep getting older. Don't worry about the future so much. Enjoy what's in front of you and be more mindful.
15. Allow yourself to give and receive support.
Supporting your friends is extremely important. Be there for them when they need you. But allow them to be there for you too. Sometimes we are too prideful to accept support from our friends but we need them in our lives.
16. Ask for help if you need it.
Again with being too prideful. Sometimes we don't ask for help even when we need it. People will always be willing to help you. When you need it, you need to ask. Don't wait until things go wrong.
2016 taught me a lot of things. I know more now than I did in 2015, and I'm hoping 2017 will teach me much more.
