Singularity Amongst A Sea Of Pairs
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Singularity Amongst A Sea Of Pairs

It's not the end of the world

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Singularity Amongst A Sea Of Pairs
Isabel Shepard, Content Creator

We've all been there.

Nobody forces me to sit alone at the cafeteria and you need to respect that.

As a college student, it's easy to feel like the odd one out. Look right, look left- you'll almost always find your fellow classmates walking in two's. It's like Noah's Ark on campus. While some might feel otherwise, I feel empowered when I'm on my own. I don't need to have someone holding both my hand and books in order to feel secure while walking to class. You shouldn't need that either.

"There are plenty of fish in the sea".

This I know to be true. I also know that I am not interested in hunting down that particular one "fish" in order to be at peace with myself. It's a silly misconception created by Nicholas Sparks novels that you are never truly whole until you find "the one". Not that I scoff at the notion of true love or finding happiness from being in a relationship, however, I don't necessarily think that I'm incapably happy on my own terms. I choose to believe that in the modern age, I have more to offer to the world than to sit pretty, waiting for a guy to notice me and be the reason why I yank myself out of bed every morning.

I'm sorry, but it's just not going to happen.

While I do enjoy my fair share of romanticism, it's clear to see that us millennials have become love-sick creatures with a false idea of what is real life versus what sells in the box office.

Many a time I can recall one of my girlfriends complaining to me that they aren't satisfied with themselves due to the fact that they don't have a boyfriend or that the one they snagged isn't going far enough to profess his love to her.

But how far is just far enough? Where does one draw the line?

It's important to realize that your mental health matters. If you are unhappy with your current situation, why do you continue to slip on the same worn out shoes? I mean, get yourself out of there! There is no worse feeling than when a connection that was once mutual notably loses reciprocation. You are worth more than a price tag can read. You're priceless and don't you forget it.

Real love is really wonderful, but how will you get to experience it if you take yourself out of the running by settling for something that is not worth a portion of your time. Don't just date to for the sake of loneliness.

If you decide dating is something you want, do it for the real thing.

Just don't forget that you're still you and it's okay to do some things on your own. Independence shouldn't indicate anything other than self-empowerment.


You are capable of accomplishing amazing things withor without a significant other at your side.


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