Monogamy, marriage, tying the knot, or whatever you want to call it is a big step in life. For some people, becoming a spouse is the ultimate goal. Since I was a little girl, I've always thought about being married. I would play house with my friends as a kid and dream about a big home with my husband and two children. However, as I got older, maneuvering through life and becoming involved with relationships, marriage has become a distant thought. I wouldn't say I do not ever want to be married, but at this point in life, it is not a main priority.
People become so wrapped up in relationships that they sometimes forget how to live for themselves. It's so much out there for them to do, but because they feel obligated to their spouse, they refrain from having fun! Personally, I believe in getting up and going whenever I want to. I don't like having to answer to someone, or even having to keep tabs on another person. Needless to say, marriage is not the thing for me at the moment. I'd rather enjoy life without a significant other. At this time in life being single allows a person to discover themselves, make new friends, experience new things, and visit new places in life.
So let's take a look at what the pros of being married are. One pro being the constant companionship. Having a spouse almost assures the constant support and love an individual needs. I mean really, who wouldn't love having a bond with someone who is always on their team? Another positive of being married is being able to raise a family. Yes, there are single parent homes that are successful, however, having a spouse to share that with is a beautiful thing. Raising children can be a difficult task, but because you aren't doing it alone, it makes things a bit easier. I can go on and on about the benefits of being married, but I'm sure you get the point.
Now, I'm sure you're wondering what could possibly be the benefits of being single forever. However, there are actually a few benefits that I've experienced since being single. For one, being able to move on your own time is a big thing for me. Typically in a relationship, you have to be mindful of your significant other's plans and what they have going on so it won't clash with what you have to do. Being single you are only responsible for your plans and priorities. Another plus would be being able to experiment with life and different people! When you're single, whose feelings can be hurt if you want to have sex with 30 people at once? No one. On a more serious note, being single allows a person to get in touch with themselves. Learning to love yourself unconditionally is so important, and people sometimes forget how to do that when in a relationship.
Like I stated before, marriage is on the back burner for me. I think loving yourself first is key before you ever decide you want to marry a person and give them your all. How can you even attempt to love another person unconditionally when you haven't fully loved yourself? Cliche I know, but it's the truth.
