It's OK To Be Single On Valentine's Day

Valentine's Day Is Still A Day Of Love Even If You're Single

I know the focus is on romantic love, but it doesn't have to be.

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While I have dated men and had relationships in the past, I still ended up single on Valentine's Day every year without fail. When you think about it, this is mainly a timing issue, but it still hurt nonetheless.

When I was younger, my only interactions with Valentine's Day festivities included exchanging those boxed Valentines to your classmates as well as between my family and friends. However, being young, insecure, and romantically alone on February 14 certainly takes its toll and makes you feel like isolated in a sea of pinks/reds, flowers, chocolates, and teddy bears.

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However, in recent years, I finally came to the realization that Valentine's Day is all about love in general even though it is not marketed within that mindset. There is love in your family, friends (if you're a "Parks and Recreation" fan, celebrate Galentine's Day on the 13th to celebrate your gal pals!), pets, hobbies, passions, dreams, and even yourself.

Galentines Day GIF by NBC

Now I'm not going to sit here and tell you that "Valentine's Day puts a lot of pressure on couples to have a perfect day so just be thankful you're single and not running around like those fools" because I don't think that's cool. I know life can get lonely especially on this day, but that doesn't mean it's suddenly OK to put down other people who are trying to show affection towards their significant others. They are allowed to be in love; why not be happy for them?

I've had some pretty good Valentine's Days since that realization a few years ago which has paired quite nicely with learning to love myself, warts and all. In addition to exchanging gifts with loved ones, I've made myself a lovely breakfast, I've sat outside and thought about all the things I'm grateful for, and I've made goals to not say anything negative about myself that day (ideally this would be an everyday thing, but it's OK to take baby steps!). I even spent last year's day of love working at my previous job for some hard-earned pay and had a blast doing it!

Working Hard Danny Devito GIF by QuickBooks

It's easy to get yourself down each year, but there's a lot more to life than romantic love. This year, spend the day treating yourself (shoutout to Whitman's chocolate samplers), remind your loved ones that you appreciate them, and share some kindness with a stranger. As you may remember, the Parkland school shooting happened on February 14 last year and a lot of people will be grieving, so you could donate to a worthy cause towards ending mass shootings, listen and believe survivors, and overall continue fighting for justice just like you would any other day.

It doesn't matter if you're single. Valentine's Day is still a day of love, so go out and spread some this year. The world could use it.

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Why You Should Stop Chasing Him

You deserve better.
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They say “the thrill of the chase" makes someone more enticing. There's just something about wanting something you can't have that drives you crazy (in a good way). There is never a dull moment. Pursuing him is a challenge. Nothing comes easily. What's the fun in that anyway?

I'm going to tell you this: stop chasing him. Stop forgiving him when he forgets to answer your text messages and phone calls. Stop being the one to always make plans. Stop letting him bail on you. Stop waiting around for him. Stop being lied to. Stop making excuses when he doesn't make time for you. There is a difference between someone who is “hard to get" and a flat out jerk who doesn't give you the time of day. Stop letting him use you.

You deserve to be with someone who makes you fall asleep every night in the middle of texting him because neither of you want the conversation to end. You deserve someone who plans dates for the two of you. You deserve someone who asks you to hang out before midnight. You deserve someone who wants to spend time with you just as much as you do with them. You deserve someone who insists on paying for your ice cream. You deserve someone who won't deceive you. You deserve someone who is straightforward. You deserve attention. You deserve affection. You deserve a partnership that is mutual, not one-sided. You deserve to be chased.

You are better than 3 a.m. “Hey" texts. You are better than a night spent watching a movie just to fool around. You are better than trying to decode his vague messages. You are better than his shadiness. You are better than mind games. You are better than being ignored.

If you have to chase him, he's not worth it. Don't settle for someone who makes you beg for his attention. If he is genuinely interested in getting to know you, he will put in the effort. A relationship where your feelings are reciprocated is far more rewarding than one where you constantly feel like you have to drag him along.

Change your mentality. Become more independent. Be confident, be bold. Find happiness in being alone. Don't waste your time pathetically chasing after someone who doesn't feel the same, but doesn't have the heart or the courage to tell you so. Your self-confidence and positivity will make you radiant, and eventually, you will attract the kind of guy who is mature enough to not mess with your head.

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Newsflash! It's Time For Everybody To Love Everybody

Come on, people, get it together.

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I, personally, think it's time for everybody to just start loving each other. Now listen, this doesn't mean you need to actually love everyone, but at least accept them. Acceptance is the closest thing we are gonna get to loving each other.

Let me tell you a little something: politics at the moment are very messy. No matter which side it is, it's messy. There is no denying that. If you try to deny that, then good for you, you're not helping anybody. If you really want some change, you need to start being the bigger person. Change isn't about who can yell about something louder or who has the "better" argument, it's about being respectful.

Just because someone has an opposing view does not mean you need to yell at them. Does yelling solve anything ever? Maybe temporarily, like for 2 minutes, but that's about as long as you're gonna get. There's absolutely no need to indirectly say something about certain individuals on social media. Yes, there is freedom of speech, but everybody should keep in mind why they have that right and why they still have it.

I do not understand why it is so hard to be respectful of one another. If someone goes after another person talking about how absolutely terrible it is of them thinking something should be illegal, the person who's being yelled at should respectfully ignore the other individual's disrespectful remarks. If the individual does not stop, then they are not aware that they are making no difference in the world.

What I'm trying to get at here is that in order to love each other, we really need to accept all our differences. If we really want change we need to go right to the sources, not just yell at each other from across the street. If everyone learned to accept each other, life would be a whole lot easier. Is this ever going to happen? Of course not. This is the solution though, whether you think so or not.

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