I’m the type of person that finds something they like at a restaurant and then orders nothing but that thing. Chick Fil A breakfast? Bacon egg and cheese biscuit with hashbrowns and iced coffee, always. I plan on using this mindset to find my husband. I am going to find a man that I like enough to constantly and continually choose him every day for the rest of my life. Someone I will never get tired of that can always be my go-to. But, until he comes into my life, I am just hanging out and enjoying it by myself.

Too often there are negative connotations around being single. People are sad and unappreciative of their ‘single seasons’ and see nothing but negative outcomes from them. Outsiders assume that something is wrong with someone if they’ve been single for a while. (Queue family members bombarding you with questions about your significant other at holiday dinners) This leads to people looking for someone – anyone – that they can date for the sole purpose of having someone to date. This needs to stop as there is no purpose behind it. Being single is a good thing and should be seen that way.

Not being in a relationship provides so many opportunities for self-growth. You get to experience life while constantly learning about yourself and testing the waters of many different things. You have the time to focus on work and school, and the money to cover your necessities while still treating yourself. You don’t have to answer to anyone and don’t have to constantly worry about another person and what they are doing. As a young adult who has so many other things to worry about, that sounds nice to me.

Now don’t get me wrong; I think relationships have the potential to be wonderful. However, in my opinion, this only happens when you find the right person. I personally don’t want to be in a relationship until I am certain that I will be with that person forever. Anything else seems like a waste of time, energy, and effort. If you are able to find your forever person then more power to you. Hopefully your relationship is full of nothing but love and good memories. Too many people date someone without truly getting to know them or without the intention of being with them forever. This is when drama begins to exhaust the relationship and there is nothing good coming out of it. It’s not worth it to be in a relationship until you’ve found someone to be there through thick and through thin.

So for now and probably for a while, I’m cherishing my life. I’m learning new things every day and keeping myself happily busy as I work towards my goals. I am more than happy with being single and I don’t think there is anything wrong with that.