Relationships can be extremely fun and fulfilling; however, if you jump into a relationship when you're not ready it can lead to an unhealthy and toxic relationship. It is important for yourself and the other person to make sure you are ready for the serious commitment. Not only can being in a relationship when you are not ready leave you broken, but also leave you more un-ready for a relationship than before.
Here are 10 signs that you are not ready for a serious relationship:
1. You are not over your ex
If you still having feelings for your ex, then getting into a new relationship would be unfair to the new person, but also will not allow you to cope with your emotions properly.
2. You have unrealistic expectations of a relationship
Society portrays "perfect" relationships through tv shows, movies, social media, etc. but there is no such thing as a "perfect" relationship. Every single relationship has their own conflicts and challenges, and you need to fully understand this before getting into one because you need to be willing to fully commit even through the rougher times.
3. You do not love yourself
As cliche as this sounds, you truly need to love yourself before you can love someone else. It is sometimes easier to accept love from others first, but loving yourself is important in building confidence and security in your relationship.
4. You cannot be vulnerable
Being able to be vulnerable is a key aspect of a relationship because you essentially are trusting someone with your heart knowing they have the power to break it. If you can not truly be vulnerable or open up emotionally then this will make reaching a deeper connection in a relationship more difficult.
5. You are too busy
A relationship requires a lot of time and energy to make it work, but if you have are too busy then making your relationship a priority may be difficult.
6. You can not fully commit
Commitment literally is the point of a relationship; however, there is nothing wrong with casually dating or seeing multiple people. But if you want a relationship then you need commitment and to be devoted to only one person.
7. You are too picky
Having standards is definitely important for your own self-worth, but you can be too picky. If you have an entire list of every last detail of your perfect partner, then you are too picky. Making an imaginary perfect partner not only will set you up for unrealistic expectations, but also hinder possible relationships due to a small trait not fitting in with your list.
8. You are a serial dater (of all the wrong people)
If you are constantly dating multiple people back-to-back and they all seem like the wrong person then you probably should take a break from dating and truly evaluate your self-worth by yourself.
9. You have trust issues
In a relationship, you need to truly be able to trust your partner, but if you have trust issues then it will be difficult for a healthy relationship to form. You should never feel insecure in a relationship or constantly question your partner's actions.
10. You really want to be in a relationship
Being single can be annoying and sucky especially when it seems like everyone else is in a relationship. It is easy to become in love with the idea of love. Yet, you should only get into a relationship if that person seems like a good fit for you, not because you simply want a relationship.
