8 Signs You're In An Unhealthy Friendship

8 Signs You're In An Unhealthy Friendship

Friends are supposed to be the people who lift you up, encourage you, and have your back. However, not all friends do this in their friendships. Heres some signs your friendship with someone may be unhealthy.



1. They downplay your excitement


If you are excited and your friend consistently downplays your excitements or accomplishments it may be an unhealthy friendship. If you typically feel like you can't go to someone to share your joy and feel like you're foolish instead they may be unhealthy for you.

2. They stand you up

Especially if they are ditching you to hang out with other (supposedly) mutual friends they may not be a healthy friend. If you are trying to make plans and they say they're sick then you see them out with someone else they may be a bad friend.

3. You're always giving


If you are always giving in any relationship its a sign it is one sided and potentially unhealthy. Friendship is a give and a take and you should not be putting all of your effort into someone who doesn't reciprocate the effort.

4. They don't say thank you


Friends do things for each other. We do favors, share food, lend a shoulder to cry on and simply give the other our time. Friends who never appreciate or say thank you may be unhealthy. Over time you may tire of being taken for granted or underappreciated.

5. They ghost you when you need them 

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If you find yourself listening to your friends vent, letting them cry on your shoulder, or rescuing them from tricky situations and not getting the same back they may not be a healthy friend. Everyone needs someone to talk to from time to time but if you're constantly listening to someone vent or talk without having someone to go to when you need emotional support that's not healthy.

6. You find yourself having to defend them 

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If other people are telling you they aren't a good friend there's a chance they are an unhealthy friend. You should not constantly have to defend your friends for treating you poorly.

7. You always do what they want 

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It's fun to share experiences as friends, but everyone has different interests. Friends should show each other their interests and try each others interests. If you're friend only wants to do what they want and it's their way or no way they may not be such a friend after all.

8. They pressure you into uncomfortable situations 


Good friends don't peer pressure. Good friends don't force you into uncomfortable situations. Lastly, good friends know your boundaries and respect them. This can be applied to anything from as simple to cheating on a test to trying drugs. If your friend pressures you and makes you feel bad for sticking by your choices then they are not a good friend.

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“It's so amazing when someone comes to your life and you expect nothing out of it, but suddenly, there right in front of you is everything you ever need."


Dear Unexpected Best Friend,

You were the person I never thought I would speak to and now you are my very best friend. You came out of nowhere and changed my life for the better. I can't thank you enough for everything you have done to shape me into the person I am today. You've taught me what it means to be selfless, caring, patient, and, more importantly, adventurous.

You don't realize how much better my life has become and all because you came out of nowhere. I didn't see you coming. I just saw you on occasion, and now I can't see my life without you in it. It's funny how life works itself out like that. Our unexpected friendship filled a hole in my life that I didn't know existed.

I don't even remember what life was like before you came along; it most likely had a lot less laughter and spontaneity than it does today. I can call you about anything and you would drop whatever you're doing to help me in any situation. You know when I need encouragement. You know when I am at my best and when I am at my worst. You always know exactly what to say.

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I couldn't have found a better friend than you if I tried. We balance each other out in the best way possible. You are most definitely the yin to my yang, and I don't care how cliché that sounds. Because of you, I've learned to stop caring what people think and to do my own thing regardless of any backlash I might receive. You are my very favorite part of what makes me who I am to this day.

It's as if I wished up a best friend, and poof — you appeared right in front of me. I am so beyond blessed to have you and I wouldn't trade the world for all our memories. Thanks for coming out of nowhere.

Love you forever and a day.

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