8 Signs You're In An Unhealthy Friendship

8 Signs You're In An Unhealthy Friendship

Friends are supposed to be the people who lift you up, encourage you, and have your back. However, not all friends do this in their friendships. Heres some signs your friendship with someone may be unhealthy.



1. They downplay your excitement


If you are excited and your friend consistently downplays your excitements or accomplishments it may be an unhealthy friendship. If you typically feel like you can't go to someone to share your joy and feel like you're foolish instead they may be unhealthy for you.

2. They stand you up

Especially if they are ditching you to hang out with other (supposedly) mutual friends they may not be a healthy friend. If you are trying to make plans and they say they're sick then you see them out with someone else they may be a bad friend.

3. You're always giving


If you are always giving in any relationship its a sign it is one sided and potentially unhealthy. Friendship is a give and a take and you should not be putting all of your effort into someone who doesn't reciprocate the effort.

4. They don't say thank you


Friends do things for each other. We do favors, share food, lend a shoulder to cry on and simply give the other our time. Friends who never appreciate or say thank you may be unhealthy. Over time you may tire of being taken for granted or underappreciated.

5. They ghost you when you need them 

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If you find yourself listening to your friends vent, letting them cry on your shoulder, or rescuing them from tricky situations and not getting the same back they may not be a healthy friend. Everyone needs someone to talk to from time to time but if you're constantly listening to someone vent or talk without having someone to go to when you need emotional support that's not healthy.

6. You find yourself having to defend them 

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If other people are telling you they aren't a good friend there's a chance they are an unhealthy friend. You should not constantly have to defend your friends for treating you poorly.

7. You always do what they want 

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It's fun to share experiences as friends, but everyone has different interests. Friends should show each other their interests and try each others interests. If you're friend only wants to do what they want and it's their way or no way they may not be such a friend after all.

8. They pressure you into uncomfortable situations 


Good friends don't peer pressure. Good friends don't force you into uncomfortable situations. Lastly, good friends know your boundaries and respect them. This can be applied to anything from as simple to cheating on a test to trying drugs. If your friend pressures you and makes you feel bad for sticking by your choices then they are not a good friend.

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14 Fraternity Guy Gifts Ideas, Since He Already Has Enough Beer

Frat boys are a species of their own and here are some exciting gifts they will be ecstatic to receive!


What more do frat boys love than alcohol, partying, and just acting stupid? Here are some gifts that help fulfill all of those needs for the frat boy in your life!

1. Beer holster belt

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2. Phone juul holder 

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3. Animal house poster 

This Animal House poster is a classic staple for any frat boy. This poster will compliment any frat house decor or lack thereof.

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4. The American Fraternity book

Does the frat boy in your life need a good read for Thanksgiving or winter break? Look no farther, this will certainly keep his attention and give him a history lesson on American fraternity heritage and tradition.

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5. Beer pong socks 

These snazzy socks featuring beer pong will be loved by any frat boy. As for the way to any frat boy's heart may, in fact, be beer pong.

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6. Condom case

This condom carrying case will not only protect condoms from damage but also make frat boys more inclined to practice safe sex, which is a win-win situation!

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7. Frat house candle

Ahhh yes, who does not like the smell of stale beer in a dark, musty frat house basement? Frat boys can make their apartment or bedroom back home smell like their favorite place with the help of this candle.

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8. "Frat" sticker

Frat boys always need to make sure everyone around them knows just how "fratty" they are. This versatile stick can go on a laptop, car, water bottle, or practically anywhere their little hearts desire.

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9. Natty Light t-shirt 

Even I will admit that this shirt is pretty cool. The frat boy in your life will wear this shirt at every possible moment, it is just that cool!

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10. Natty light fanny pack 

This fanny pack can absolutely be rocked by any frat boy. The built-in koozie adds a nice touch.

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11. Bud Light Neon Beer Sign 

A neon beer sign will be the perfect addition to any frat boys bedroom.

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12. Beer Opener

Although most frat boys' go to beers come in cans, this bottle opener will be useful for those special occasions when they buy nicer bottled beers.

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13. Frat House Dr. Sign

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Forget stealing random street signs, with this gift frat boys no longer have to do so.

14. Beer Lights 

Lights are an essential for any party and these will surely light up even the lamest parties.

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Please note that prices are accurate and items in stock as of the time of publication. As an Amazon Associate, Odyssey may earn a portion of qualifying sales.

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To The Strong Friend Of The Group, It's OK To Cry

Sometimes your strong friend needs a shoulder to lean on.


I am the strong friend of my group.

You know, that friend that never really lets their emotions get the best of them. The friend that everyone calls when they're having an extremely crappy day. The friend that always has an empty shoulder and just the right words when you've gone through your third relational break-up.

I am that friend.

Its like some sort of inevitable thing, every friend group has one. But, has anyone ever thought to ask how the strong friend is holding up? I can guarantee you, nine times out of ten we're barely making it. We never think to push our problems on others so we'd rather ignore our own to help our friends fix theirs. We're certainly headstrong when it comes to ourselves but understanding when it comes to those we care about. I'll admit, sometimes it gets tough being this friend. I'd place most of the reasoning behind the notion that because we put up such a tough exterior everyone may feel as though we're fine.

As the strong friend, I'm here to tell you: its okay to cry. Its okay to let your guard down.You don't have to be strong 24/7 and unless you're some sort of robot, you have emotions too. I know it can be tough because its something we're not used to and kind of weird because we're actually on the opposite side of the spectrum. I guess the saying is true, "sometimes you just have to cry it out."

Now, I'm not talking full blown therapy sessions here. But, every now and again call your closest friend and try telling them when you've had a bad day. Call them when you're anxious about that job interview you had, you know the one you've been busting your butt for. Don't worry, they'll be more than understanding and more than willing to be able to make their "strong friend" feel good for once.

The main point of all of my ranting is this—after taking care of everyone else we have to think, "Are we taking care of ourselves?"

Being the strong friend can be debilitating, but we cant become so consumed with everyone else's problems that we forget about our own. Bottled up emotions are the worst ones. So strong friend, next time you're feeling sad, mad, happy or glad let it out; scream and shout and tell your closest friends what it was all about.

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