Signs You Are An INFJ, One Of The Most Unique Myers-Briggs Personalities

Signs You Are An INFJ, One Of The Most Unique Myers-Briggs Personalities

Even though I'm an introvert I'm still naturally social.

ISFJ (Introverted, Observant, Feeling, and Judging) is one of the 16 personalities from the Myers-Briggs test. It's also one of the unique ones of the bunch, and it's my personality type.

At first, I was really against the results, the I, S, and J all made sense but the F didn't. I feel like I choose to think over feel, but even though us ISFJ's have the feeling trait we still have excellent logical reasoning abilities. It's the same with being an introvert, while we are introverted were different from the other introverts because we have well-developed people skills and social relationships. Our intimate level with others is better than any other personality type. We're also hiding but very willing to consider to change and new ideas.

ISFJ's are selfless people who engage in work and the people we believe in with enthusiasm and generosity. We are very enthusiastic when it comes to making a difference in lives by taking the support, reliability, and imagination we have and apply it to the change we want to make.

INFJ's are universal helpers by sharing knowledge and experience, whenever possible we choose empathy over judgment. We like to support the people around us and only strive for win-win situations. We use our great imagination to help us with our empathy.

INFJ's are observant because we like to observe others feeling and seeing things from their perspective. Which could also be a weakness for us because we are so concerned for others feelings that we don't make ours know. We are so private and sensitive that we keep our feelings on the inside to protect our feelings so we can also protect other people's feelings, our shyness also gets in the way of telling our feelings to others.

INFJ's are so hardworking that we have so many high standards for ourselves that knowing we could've changed something minor to make a task better will make us downplay our success for the task. Which isn't already a good thing because we're so humble that we already downplay our success. We have this strong idea of perfection that's is so easy for us to overload ourselves so we can meet everyone's expectations and ours. We like to accomplish our goal to the highest standard and beyond what is required, we are so careful and we use a steady approach to our end goal.

Because we are so hardworking if we get negativity from conflict or criticism in our professional life we carry that into our personal life because we take things too personal that we don't know how to separate personal and impersonal situations.

INFJ's are very selfless that we let things slide and we believe things will get better soon. We don't how to say no, which is why we have a hard time standing up for ourselves. Other people take advantage of our dedication and humbleness by pushing their work on us and then taking credit for the work we did.

INFJ's are loyal, we make excellent memories to remember people and the details about their life. We make friends by having mutual support, advice, and reassurance. We like to maintain a secure and stable environment for ourselves and our loved ones.

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No, It's Not OK To Adopt Black Culture If You're Not Black

And no, it does not make me feel comfortable.

Black History Month, Marvel's "Black Panther," constant success across the country from young artists and go-getters all around, what isn't there to enjoy about black culture in today's society? It seems that almost now more than ever having pride in just being a black individual is at an all-time high, with seemingly no sign of that dropping anytime soon. Now I know I've literally said the word "black" about 4 times in the first paragraph of this piece and it may be a bit uncomfortable, but culture is something we should all be open and willing to talk about with an open mind.

As a 20-year-old minority, born and raised in NYC, trust me when I say I've had my fair share of strife with who I am as an individual in this ever-growing world. Throughout middle school and high school, I had a constant battle going on in my mind about whether I wanted to embrace who I was or deny it and try to fit in with most of society's standards. Gladly at age 20, I can now say that I'm glad I took the time out to learn and embrace my culture because, at the end of the day, it's who I am.

That's not to say that every day, myself and many others still don't encounter problems with people either underestimating, undermining, or just misunderstanding black culture. Whether it comes to hair, clothes, music, or language, it's important to know that black culture is exactly that. BLACK culture.

Now before I start, I want everyone to know that this piece is not, and never will say that everyone no matter what race, gender, preference, or ideal, cannot partake in enjoying and supporting black culture. UNDERSTAND, that there is a huge difference but a very thin line between understanding a culture and undermining it. It almost becomes second nature of minorities all across the U.S. to ignore microaggressions and continue with everyday life like nothing ever happened.

What happens when someone asks to touch your hair? Or when someone who isn't black says the n-word? Whether it's calling me your "brotha" or just blatantly yelling Cardi B's "Bodak Yellow" because you automatically assume I know the lyrics, know that these things ARE NOT OK within the black community.

Excuse me if I rant a bit (as I'm really trying my best to make a good impression here) but as a young African-American, I should not have to tell you that these things make me uncomfortable. It's one thing when it's coming from someone who you know has gone through the same struggles as you, but it becomes a different and more hostile story when the n-word or anything along those lines comes from someone who you know has no clue what your specific culture has gone through. If I wouldn't dare do something specific to your culture in an attempt to make you feel comfortable when we both know I have no clue what I'm doing or saying, what makes you think it's ok to do the same towards me?

No matter how popularized a certain phrase is, or how much of a "bop" that new Migos track is, it doesn't mean it's OK for you to say it in front of my face in an attempt for you to fit in with who I am. Diversity and sharing of certain cultural traits is a beautiful thing. Food, art, language, and ideals are only a few things that join us as humans together and make us beautiful. Before you say that word though, get that henna tattoo, wear that dashiki, ask that girl if you can touch her hair, or even assume that guy can just automatically speak Spanish because of how he looks, think about how it makes that person feel. I know the headline of this article says 'Black Culture,' but know that these rules (for the most part) are universal, across almost all cultures.

I can't begin to tell you how uncomfortable I've felt around people who feel like they need to acknowledge my culture in order to make me feel comfortable. Whether it's at school, work, or just on the street, a day seems to never go by without somebody pointing out indirectly that I'm black.

I work at the NHL store in New York City. I've been a fan of the National Hockey League since I was about four (which has been a struggle in and of itself). Seemingly every day, a fellow co-worker of mine never fails to acknowledge me as his "brotha." Note, that co-worker is not black. Actually, I don't think I'd be wrong if I said I believe he gets a little on edge every time a black person walks into a hockey store just to check out some apparel. Of course, after a couple days I called him out on it, but that's not the point. The point is, my strife is felt from people of all cultures across the world because for some reason certain individuals feel the need to identify me with who they THINK I am based on how I look.

Do not adopt my culture because you think it'll make me like you more.

Do not adopt my culture period, UNLESS you've taken the time to study, understand, and acknowledge it.

Even then, tread lightly.

I know I sound like an angst-filled young minority at this point, but I write this with good meaning. Please understand that it makes people uncomfortable when you acknowledge them based on their race. Please understand that it is not your right to adopt black culture, or any culture for that matter, because you feel it's the new fad or it'll make me like you more.

Take those cornrows out of your head.

Please take off that dashiki.

Don't get that henna tattoo.

No, that sari and/or bindi is not for you.

A Native American is not a Halloween costume.

Addressing a Hispanic person as Señor does not make them comfortable.

Do not dread your hair if you have no trace of a natural curl pattern.

Take the time to understand those around you. One less micro aggression or act of appropriation makes the world a much better place.

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Spoken Word Of Black Women

Memorable words from black women

Happy Black History Month! Which unfortunately is the shortest month out of the whole year I might add. To celebrate such a gracious time here are some memorable quotes from women of the black community.

Brenda Skyes

"I do what I want to do and I really don't feel the need to explain anything." -Brenda Sykes

Halle Berry

“When I was a kid, my mother told me that if you could not be a good loser, then there's no way you could be a good winner.” -Halle Berry

Jada Pinkett Smith

“We have to nurture our young women and understand the beauty and the strength of being a woman. It's kind of a catch-22: Strength in women isn't appreciated, and vulnerability in women isn't appreciated. It's like, 'What the hell do you do?' What you do is you don't allow anyone to dictate who you are.” -Jada Pinkett Smith


"Your self-worth is determined by you. You don’t have to depend on someone telling you who you are." -Beyoncé

Whitney Houston

“You can fool people. You can fool anybody anytime of the day, but you can't fool yourself. At night, when you go home, you've got to be straight up with you.” -Whitney Houston

Janet Jackson

“Competition is great. And as long as it's friendly and not a malicious thing, then I think it's cool.” -Janet Jackson

Eartha Kitt

“My recipe for life is not being afraid of myself, afraid of what I think or of my opinions.” -Eartha Kitt

Grace Jones

“One boyfriend told me that I loved myself too much. I thought, Well, you can love a boyfriend too much, but you can’t love yourself too much. Sometimes you have to love yourself to keep yourself whole.” -Grace Jones

Josephine Baker

“God dislikes evil, and no happiness can be built on hate. Love one another as brothers.” -Josephine Baker


“Be thankful for what you have; you'll end up having more. If you concentrate on what you don't have, you will never, ever have enough.” -Oprah

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