As A Man, I'm Sick And Tired Of Sexual Harassment

As A Man, I'm Sick And Tired Of Sexual Harassment

"Look guys – no matter what a girl does, no matter how she’s dressed, no matter how much she’s had to drink – it’s never, never, never, never, never okay to touch her without her consent. This doesn’t make you a man – it makes you a coward." -Joe Biden
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For the love of God, keep your hands to yourself! Are you a bunch of five-year-olds or something? Do women need to walk around wearing signs that read "Do Not Touch?" What is it going to take to get it through your thick skulls that you do not touch what is not yours without permission?! And even if it's your significant other, you still ask permission before you engage in any kind of sexual acts or contact.

Let's get this straight: Her body DOES NOT belong to you and it NEVER will. If she says "No", then it means no. If she says "Yes" but after you start she says "Stop", then you stop and respect her choice. There is no compromise or substitute; you just stop. You are entitled to nothing.

Recently, I came across an article titled, "To Girls Wearing "Cheeky" Bathing Suit Bottoms, Please Stop" that was being featured on Odyssey's Facebook page. The cover image is of a girl in a bikini bottom that exposes her butt. The amount of vile and straight-up perverted comments made by older men on that post is mind-boggling. Don't believe me? Take a look for yourselves.

To the perverts who send unsolicited pictures of their genitals, sexually explicit messages, and pathetically beg for nudes, what the fuck is your problem? Do you really think she wants to see your penis? Do you seriously believe that telling her how much you want to fuck her or asking to "see those titties", is going to get you anywhere? There is nothing flattering or attractive about that crap at all! She doesn't owe you a damn thing, and she sure as hell doesn't deserve your sick harassment.

There is nothing cool or okay about touching a woman in any area of her body without her consent, nor does it make you "manly." In fact, it makes you scum. It makes you the lowest of the low and the worst that humanity has to offer.

If you are worried about being accused of sexual harassment for flirting, then you probably shouldn't be flirting at all. If all you can talk about is sex, then you should stop talking to them. Amidst all the offensive tactics however, there is a way you can actually completely avoid these accusations!

Mutual respect and communication are so vitally important to any form of interpersonal contact. I'd bet my life that a woman will find you one million times more attractive if you treat her with respect and as a fellow human being, and not as some kind of sex toy. Be kind, be respectful, and be a real man. A real man doesn't sexually harass women.

As a man, I am so fed up with other men's behavior and lack of respect. Not everything is about sex or attractiveness. I honestly feel lucky to be a man because I would lose my mind if I was constantly being harassed, sexualized, and hit on. Women deserve to be treated as humans, not sexual objects for male gratification.

I can't believe I even have to say this, it's almost 2018 for crying out loud! When will we ever learn? It isn't hard to treat women with dignity and amicability. I know we can do better than this. we have to - because they deserve our best and nothing less.

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Just Because I Check My Boyfriend's Location Every Hour Doesn't Make Me A 'Psycho Girlfriend'

No, checking his location every hour does not make me psycho.
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My boyfriend and I have been seeing each other for a few months now. He has come up with describing my actions sometimes as “psycho girlfriend.” As much as this bothered me at first I started to realize there is nothing wrong with my “psycho” actions.

I don’t monitor who my boyfriend hangs out with and I don’t care who he texts, I trust him, but I do watch other things he does.

I probably check his location about once an hour, maybe more if he isn’t texting me back.

This isn’t some way for me to find out if he is with another girl, it’s so I can ensure he isn’t dead in a ditch somewhere. If he was on Snapchat five minutes ago but hasn’t texted me back in 45 minutes, yeah I’ll call him out on it but I'm not actually mad. If he is with friends and not answering me, it’s cool. I just want to be able to make sure I know where he is and that he is alive on a regular basis.

I make him keep his read receipts on for me.

I don’t care if he leaves me on read, I just need to know he is seeing what I’m saying. Half the time, I text him random facts or thoughts I have throughout my day, those don’t always need a response back. However, I do want to know he is acknowledging me through reading my texts.

Yes, from time to time I will spam him and make him respond to my messages so we can make plans or I can know what he is doing with his day but it’s not like I plan out his every move for him or care if he is getting drunk with the boys on a Wednesday, not my issue.

I don’t ask for all of his time or anything. I know he is a busy person. All I ask for him to text me back on a regular basis (once an hour to be exact), for him to allow for me to know where he is at all times and to get one night a week with him.

I don’t plan to show up where he is or anything, I simply just like to know information and get a weekly time with him. I don’t care if I only see him that one night a week, I just want one night with a movie or dinner or snuggles so I can get my boyfriend time.

The rest of the time he is his own person, and I couldn’t really care less about what he does in that time.

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Poetry On Odyssey: Last Thing On My Mind When The Sun Shines

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I think of you

when the sun does not shine;

when I close my eyes;

I see us.

when the sun shines,

I feel nervous.

when I open my eyes;

immediately blind;

you did nothing;

I did nothing;

you speak;

I listen.

it becomes something;

I speak;

you listen.

It is something;

you ask;

I answer;

I question;

you retort.

we are back to nothing;

all I want;

is for you on board;

not asking why

anymore.

I cannot help you

If you help me;

nor can I help myself;

no, I don't want your help;

I learned more;

and need more.

You learned;

and earned

my trust.

I trust you;

you trust me;

so, that's that.

do not give me that crap,

I will see you;

when my vision

is complete.

when your help

becomes a need.

when my help

can make you see.

but, for now,

don't ask why,

or how;

because I still have yet to figure it out.

you may even know

all the answers

that have not yet been told.

please go ahead and scold;

just know,

there's nothing I can do;

when I don't love you;

you're always going to wonder,

and keep trying,

but, baby, I am not lying.

I love you, yeah.

but, you're not meant for me.

sure, I'll be there for you,

If you will be, too;

nothing should be news.

The sun will rise,

And one day,

I'll let you know if it shines,

Or if it still blinds.

For now,

Get your head out of the clouds,

and please just understand

now.







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