If life could be perfect, then the world would be perfect and so would people, but perfection is impossible, and sometimes life doesn't go the way we think it ought to. Most 22-year-olds expect to be married by their 25th birthday, own a home and a dog and start planning a family with their significant other. I don't think most of those people expect to still be living at home with little to no money, to be single, to be struggling with mental illnesses or to be down in the dumps in any way similar. Because you know what? S--t happens. It does, and when it does, it sucks. My dad always says that when it rains, it pours.
No one has an amazing run at life. Everyone is going to hit some hurdles along the way, and they will totally screw you over. It's unexpected, because that's what life is. It's completely unpredictable and there's no way to plan ahead. That monthly love and luck horoscope you read religiously? It's just some vague description that makes you envision that possibility of a perfect life, because it can fit into anyone's day. Being a Leo or a Scorpio dictates nothing in your life. The actions you perform and the responsibilities you take every day, are what dictate your life. The five-year finance for your car that you planned out? The dealer doesn't care if you get laid off six months after buying it. They don't care when you get behind in payments, and they surely don't care when they come to repo your car away. Because it's life, and life doesn't care. It just throws more hurdles at you to find your breaking point.
Now you can mope around and feel sorry for yourself, or you can take the initiative and do something to better your circumstances. No, you can't end up like Cinderella and magically have everything handed to you on a gold platter. Life doesn't work out that way. You may get a little piece of gold here and there, but you're not hitting the California Gold Rush. By doing something to help yourself get better and better, well, your life will become better and better. Do yourself a favor and change the circumstances you're in. I know it's easier said than done, but an attempt at perfection will benefit you more than a stationary position in dissatisfaction.
Maybe you really dislike your sibling because you've been compared to them your entire life. Maybe you and your significant other argue over insecurities and finances. Maybe you just don't feel worthy of the love from someone you have feelings for. So what? These are your circumstances, and if you're unhappy, you should change it. S--t does happen, and your circumstances make you upset or angry. If life was perfect, you wouldn't be feeling this way, and you would be happy with what you have and who is in your life.
We all experience life; it's what makes us human. And being human means that we mess up and that we become upset. But being human also means that we have the chance to watch the sun rise, the chance to love, and the chance to grow. When life gives us our hurdles, we fall at first — like anyone new to the track team. We go from falling to stumbling, from stumbling to running and then from running to leaping.
It's humanity, and although s--t happens, it's life.
