Gone are the days where a guy can invite a girl over to his house and cook for her on the first date because now we have to be careful about who we're meeting up with and where. I feel bad for the genuinely nice guys out there that are always getting lumped into the pile with the bad guys. Not bad boys, but bad guys. There's a difference. I believe there are four types of guys, the genuinely nice guy, the nice for now guy, the bad boy, and the bad guy.
1. The Genuinely Nice Guy
This guy is usually someone you can't really see yourself being with because he's the guy equivalent of a wallflower, I guess we can call him a backsplash. The thing you have in your kitchen where the water hits behind the sink but you don't notice it's there doing the job it was made to do, that's the genuinely nice guy. I can't stress that enough. He's nice when you first meet him, he's nice even when you don't feel the same way about him as he feels for you and he never ever pressures you to do anything you don't want to do. Date this guy he's a catch.
2. The Nice for Now Guy
The nice for now guy, is the guy who is basically a wolf in sheeps clothing. That's the guy who will not come at you side ways until you've rejected him in some way. For instance, you meet online and you've been messaging back and forth for a few days. He finally gets the nerve to ask you out and takes you to a fancy restaurant, while at dinner you think you should be having the time of your life but for some reason there's no spark. At the end of the date he says he had a great time and wants to take you out again, you say thank you but unfortunately you weren't feeling it. He loses his smile and starts calling you names and saying really nasty things about you right there in front of the five star restaurant. This my friends is the nice for now guy. When he doesn't get his way or what he thinks he wants, he is no longer the nice guy you had originally thought he was.
3. The Bad Boy
Everybody knows the bad boy, if not personally you've surely heard of the bad boy. There really isn't anything to be said about the bad boy except that we all know he's bad for us yet there's just something about him that draws us in. He probably has his own magnetic field tuned in just to trap us girls into thinking that we can tame him, but ladies we can't, not unless he wants to be tamed.
4. The Bad Guy
The bad guy, this is a hard guy to pinpoint. You can't tell what type of guy you have until you're in a situation you shouldn't be in. When you find yourself in that situation I suggest you make every excuse in the book to extricate yourself immediately. This guy is no good! This is the guy who asks "can I put the tip in?" but really means, "even if you say no, I'm putting the tip in anyway."
I've had the fortune and sometimes misfortune of meeting all four of these guys. The only thing I can do now with my first hand experience is pass on the knowledge I've gained so that someone else doesn't end up in my shoes with the bad guy. The thing about guys is that they all promise that they're "nice guys," so just be careful and if you ever find yourself in a situation that you don't feel comfortable in, remember that a true nice guy would never make you feel uncomfortable, or pressure you into doing something you don't want to do because it goes against his moral compass.
