If you had never hurt me, I wouldn't be where I am today.
When you reach your junior year of college, if you can relate to me, you feel as though you enter an in-between stage. There is so much to reflect on in your past, but you are also anxiously awaiting your future. There is something very important that changes as you reach this point of your life. Listen carefully: You care less and less what others think.
As you reflect back on your life, you begin to realize that if it weren't for all the hurt, heartache or obstacles, then you may have taken a different path in life. Something that is important to remember when you are hurt by someone is that you MUST grieve.
To all of my fellow young women out there, you know the most cliché heartbreak of all is MEN. To all of you kind-hearted young men out there: I know that women can be just as bad. Whether you have been played over and over again by the opposite sex, or put yourself out there just to keep getting your heart crushed over and over. You may be sad for awhile, then move into an angry phase, but when those phases end, you should be thanking them for the hurt.
Yes, it sounds crazy, but just listen. Someday, when those men become fathers, and see their teenage girl's heart being broken by a boy who was "too cool" to treat her right or women who witness young girls treating their sons how they used to treat boys. I hope that they think about us, the ones who they hurt, and want to go back in time and do things differently.
To those of you who may not have had the best SAT scores, but worked your butt off to have a solid GPA. The rejection letters from those universities break your heart, they make you feel like the world is coming to an end. Instead, silently thank the admissions at those universities. If they did not want you, then that is their loss. They just missed out on some of the most hard working students that are going to make a difference in this world.
To all of the friends that made you feel worse about yourself, when they should have been lifting you up. The ones who treated you terribly, but you were that kind of friend who always had their back even when they didn't have yours. It makes you stronger. You learn to only trust people that you can count on. You become much more appreciative to the ones who bring out the sunshine on a rainy day.
You become a soldier. There are scars that you will always have forever, but you know that with time, they become reminders of strength. Thank you to these people who have hurt us. If it weren't for them, we wouldn't be who we are today.
So, remember to thank your past heartbreaks, because you are going to walk confidently into the future.
The path of life will only get brighter for you.
