Everyone would agree that women are complicated. While this adjective can apply to almost every individual, it is not meant to say that they are all the same. Complications come in different degrees of difficulty. Women can be sassy, sarcastic, sweet, caring, logical, devoted, contradictory, emotional, and pretty much every other descriptive known to man.
Complicated is most certainly harder, but it’s well worth it. Isn’t it always the things we spend the most time on and put the most effort into that are the most rewarding? Just because she’s a little tough to figure out it doesn’t mean you should give up on her -- and here are a few of the reasons why.
She’s smart.
She thinks about every possible situation and every one of their possible outcomes. The word "overthinking" often comes with a negative connotation; on the contrary, overthinking is a sign of intelligence. It means she has the capacity to analyze the causes and effects of things. She recognizes certain causes and is able to foresee the likely outcomes. So maybe some people see that as being complicated or hard to figure out, but that’s just where the challenge comes in.
She has high standards.
She has to weed through the bad guys in order to get to the good ones. She has to separate the losers from the one man who can actually love and appreciate her. Men call it “playing games,” but she doesn’t even realize that she’s doing it. She has certain expectations of a man to meet her high standards. So when he offers to go out of his way to walk her to her car and she says, “It’s fine, you don’t have to,” it’s not actually fine. While he might see her response as appreciation for the chivalrous offer, she was subconsciously giving him the opportunity to show her that he’s the kind of gentleman she’s looking for. She holds high standards and that will lead her to the man who’s willing to work and figure it out.
She’s hard to get...
Not every man can keep up with an intelligent woman, and not every man can meet her high standards. That’s the point. A woman who is hard to love won’t get involved in a relationship unless she thinks it’s worth it. She isn’t easy, and she’s not the kind of woman that men come by every day. She doesn’t rush, and because she takes the time to think -- or overthink -- everything, she sees something in the man that she allows to be in her life romantically.
... and hard to keep.
If she is in a relationship, what she has with that man is meaningful and different. That means it’s worth working for. Just as he worked to get her, he’ll have to work to keep her. At this point though, it’s not one sided. Once two people are in a relationship, it’s easy to start feeling comfortable and ignore the possibility of losing one another. A man has to continue to do the big things, and the little things, that he did to win her over. That short walk to her car or flowers at the door that meant the world to her then is even more important to her now.
She loves you.
She really loves you. She only wants the best for you and she knows your potential. Her expectations are so high because she knows you can reach them. She’s happy for your success. She’s invested in you and your future together. When she asks how your day went, she really means it. She tries as hard as you do to keep the relationship alive. She knows that neither of you are perfect and that sometimes things will get bumpy. She’ll act crazy and jealous because she cares. She’ll pout because she doesn’t want you to leave her side. She’ll cry and yell because you hurt her feelings. If she does these things, she loves you enough to put up the fight. She pouts and cries and gets angry rather than giving up on the two of you. She wants to share everything that makes her happy, and everything that makes her sad. Most of the time you’ll be the reason behind her smile and her go-to when she’s upset.
Complicated women know what it feels like to have people give up on them, and that makes sense. We’re not that easy; however, there are people who will appreciate you for all that you are, complications included. They’ll enjoy every minute you’re together, including the bumps in the road.
You deserve someone who appreciates every little thing about you. The one that’s right for you will love and adore you, appreciate and honor you, earn and deserve you. They will be able to do these things because of your complexities, not in spite of them. And if you’re really lucky, you’ll find that one before dealing with too many no-good guys.
