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Let's Talk About Sex

"Sex is a bit less taboo, and a hell of a lot frequenter."

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Sex, banging, shagging, "doing the nasty," bedding. Sex is simply a natural part of human life, used for pleasure or reproductive uses. However, there are far too many people I feel, "getting it on," for the wrong reasons. Call me old-fashioned, but I believe as if there is an underlying sacredness towards intimacy and the act of "love making."

This isn't an article to bash or slut-shame. If you are loving yourself, practicing safe sex, and consensual among your partners, then I believe you are doing it right. Virginity is a sacred concept if you're still living in biblical times. Being a virgin does not make you any more or less better than anyone else if you choose to wait; that's alright. If you can't help it and are too curious or invested into another person; more power to you. The amount of sex someone is or isn't having does not correlate with being a "slut," or "prude." Let people do as they please, and stop judging them for making the decisions you are not making.

My parents raised me to believe sex is the end all be all of someone's love life. Put it simply, they waited until marriage. However their generation was a bit more tight-lipped than ours, and sex was sort of a big deal. It was more so viewed as the ultimate act of love, something you could share with a person and create a special bond with them, that you couldn't have with anyone else. Now, sex is a bit less taboo, and a hell of a lot frequenter.

When I lost my virginity, I expected to be in love with that person forever. To grow old together, to have children together; and be a family. Seeing as that hasn't helped well, I was pretty devastated. However thinking that you could spend the rest of your life with was the first person you ever did the sick nasty with, was a tad naive. Due to this, I was turned off on the whole idea of being with someone in that way again. I wasn't much more mature than I am now, and even though I waited and was in love, still don't think I was as prepared as I should have been.

I'm truly glad I had a connection with that person, though. Things seemed so... right. Maybe loving the person made things easier, I have no clue. Now during sexual encounters; nothing seems as right as it was.

For me, I need a special connection with a partner to feel like sex is a justified action. I can't really do meaningless one-night stands; there is an urge for kinship before anything can take place in a bed. That's just my personal preference in order to give someone. It may not be an all powerful act of love, but it is still semi-sacred. To me, sex is a "here is something I hold special, and I would like to share this action with you because I find you special."

Whether or not you agree or disagree with my opinion, I hope whoever you're being with, appreciates, values, and supports you. Practice safe sex or no sex, whatever your decision is can only be held to you. You should not be judged for how you choose to show your intimacy.

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