You're 20 And Settled Down? Oh, To Be Young— And Stupid.
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You're 20 And Settled Down? Oh, To Be Young— And Stupid.

I'll be over here enjoying being free.

Teisha
Jan 17, 2017
SUNY Fredonia
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You're 20 And Settled Down? Oh, To Be Young— And Stupid.
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To The Girl That Is Settling Down At 20,

You're twenty. 20. 2 - 0.

Our brain isn't even fully developed yet. Well, neither is mine, since the brain doesn't fully develop until the age of 25. However, there's a difference between me and half of the people that I graduated high school with. I didn't choose to use my youth to pop out babies and be married to the "love of my life" that I'll probably be divorced to in 3 years. If you're reading this and you're under 22, don't get me wrong, I'm not bashing you for making your own choices. I love babies, and want to be married to my best friend someday. I want to have a little family of my own, and people to come home to at the end of a long day at work. However, I'm choosing to do it the "old-fashioned" way.

By waiting.

I'm in no hurry to "settle down." I'm one of the few who is very glad I'm spending my early twenties with myself and only me. Well, besides my wonderful boyfriend who I'm not in a rush to be engaged to. This is the time to get to know yourself, be selfish, and make choices that you're young enough to make. For me, those things include graduating college and traveling to places I've only dreamed of seeing so far. Hate to say it, but if you have kids young, you're reducing your chances of both of these things by a large percent. I'd rather have a degree and the pride of hard work than two screaming kids pulling on my arm at 22.

A degree will let me give the life to my future kids that I've always wanted them to have. I'll be taking cute selfies with my friends at the bar after work(the job I worked all my life for) while you're at home listening to your child scream because you didn't get the right brand of chicken nuggets. I want to cherish being young while I can. And for me, being young and dumb is a temporary situation. One that doesn't include diapers, daycare, and formula. Sorry, not sorry.

I'll stay young and free.

From The Girl Acting Her Age.

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