If there's one thing that we all want for our exes besides that split second of revenge, it's happiness. Am I right? Sure, we would love to see them stumble and fall. Depending on how it ended, you deserve to feel every bit of saltiness that you do. You were let down, hurt, maybe even blind-sided. You were taken for granted, maybe even taken advantage of. He did not treat you like the queen you deserve to be treated no less than. Or maybe time just told you were not meant to be.

In the end, you were left with a pit in your stomach the size of the hole he left in your heart. You're upset. It's OK. You still think about it. It's OK. You agree when Kelly Clarkson's lyrics state, "I would never wish bad things, but I don't wish you well." Too far? Maybe. Will holding a grudge that heavy and cold help you to move on? Or will it only hold you back from moving forward? Will watching your ex drown for all the wrongs they imposed seriously make you float upright in the water of life? You know the right answer whether you choose to deny it or not.

Here's where our evidently larger levels of maturity come in handy, ladies-- the moment we send our blessings and love to our exes' new future-- the future not involving us. It's weird, but couldn't be more appropriate for our age now (not to mention it's the best of karma). Send your love to his new lover, in hopes that he will treat her better. Wish this couple all the best. Be thankful that's not still you. You dodged a darting bullet on this one. Who's to say they aren't made for each other? He might change his ways for her and put forth the impressive effort he lacked in your relationship with him. If that's the case, commend him. He grew from the egotistical jerk he may have been. Odds are this would have never happened if you stayed together. Be proud of the progress you helped make happen.

When you stop wishing misery upon an ex, you'll see a significant change in your own life. You become more focused on your own happiness, instead of wasting energy anticipating someone else's downfall. You begin to look forward to what's ahead, instead of lingering in the unnecessary past. You close a chapter that's been open too long to reach the better parts of your book. I want nothing but the best for any guy I've ever been with. If that doesn't say "I've moved on," I don't know what will. So send all your sincere love to your ex's new lover, in hopes your new guy's ex-girl will wish the same. What goes around comes around. Thanks to Adele and her music for another brilliant lesson.