Seeing My Mom In The Hospital Put My Life Into Perspective

Seeing My Mom In The Hospital Put My Life Into Perspective

The strength my mom showed made me that I had to be grateful to have her and everything else in my life.

As a kid in high school, I never really stopped to be grateful for the little things in my life. In all the hustle and bustle of high school, I was always focused on what I had to do, which was what I was told to do. Never before had I stopped rushing, calmed down and taken the time to ponder and to reflect on how fortunate I was to have all the things in life that I have. That is, until my mom had surgery.

I remember the day that she came home from the hospital after an MRI scan with a grim look on her face. I sat her down and asked what was wrong. When she told me that she would need surgery, I was really concerned, but I assured her that she would be fine and that we have great doctors here. She would be fine, right? I remember sitting on the couch, contemplating what my situation was.

However, when she had her surgery and was finally ready for us to visit her was when I realized how truly blessed I was. One of the things that I noticed was how fortunate I was to have my body functioning well. After my mom's surgery, she basically had to learn how to walk again. Time and time again I had to listen to her cries and moans of pain as she struggled to even get out of her bed. As I saw her trying her hardest to fight through the pain and move, I thought to myself – wow, I really am fortunate. I don't even think twice about walking. Meanwhile, there are people in this hospital who don't even have the ability to move any body part below their neck.

I started to see other people around the hospital, each with a unique disability in their bodies that hindered their ability to do even the simplest tasks. I really began to feel truly blessed. I could walk properly, eat properly, talk properly and do other daily functions without a second thought. It was time that I stopped taking that for granted.

Another thing that I realized was to not take my mom for granted. After seeing all the pain she went through in the hospital, I noticed how strong my mom was. Despite the hardship she was going through, she continued to be the caring and loving mother that she's always been. She would smile through all of the pain and let us know that she was fine, even though she was clearly not. Her constant shows of mental and emotional strength taught me to realize that I should never take my mother for granted.

Having such a strong, loving and caring mother while other kids my age were deprived of one is truly a blessing. Spending that week in the hospital with my recovering mother was an eye-opening experience,and it's one I know I won't forget for a long time.

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Be True To Yourself And Stay Real With Those Around You

You're not being rude, hopefully.


It is important to not be fake or easily swayed by others' opinions. Being true to yourself and having a set of values that people acknowledge as respectable can get you far. Doing the right thing and being reasonable allow you to keep it real. Keeping it real is constantly seeking the truth. However, there is a fine line between being real and being rude.

If you say you're "just being honest" and following that with a rude comment, you're not being real. You can't tear down the people around you just because you're trying to be real with everyone. Being real with the people around you means being respectful. Think about others before you think about yourself. Think about what you're going to say before you say it. Also, think about how you're going to say it.

Tone plays a critical role in keeping it real versus being rude. There are many ways to phrase a statement, and many meanings can come from one statement. By putting emphasis on a different word each time you repeat the statement, it can drastically change the tone. Tone is the intonation of the voice as expressive of some meaning or feeling. If you are aware of your tone, it can stop you from being perceived as rude. It is important to be heard and say what you need to say, but it is also important not to hurt those you care enough about.

Intent also plays a role in being real versus being rude. It is obvious when my mother is telling me something with her best interest at heart. It is obvious when a guy in my elective is telling me something with malicious intent. The fine line between being real and being rude is the intent. The purpose of the phrase coming out of the other person's mouth has a profound effect. Once you learn how to tell the difference between the two, you will have an easier time in life. Make sure to think before you speak. Analyze whether what you're about to say will benefit the person and take into consideration why you are even phrasing a statement. There is a real reason for everything you have to say, and there are also real consequences for what you say.

Context is also important when it comes to maintaining the conversation. Conversations are situational and it is important to only say what is relevant. In order to keep it real and not be rude, you have to dissociate from other outside conversations. You have to know that comments taken out of context can be hurtful and used against you. The circumstances are different for each person involved, so it is in your best interest to keep it real.

It's definitely easier said than done. However, taking context, intent, and tone into consideration will stop you from being perceived as rude. Everyone wants to keep it real, but not everyone is capable of staying within the threshold. This line between being real and being rude has consequences, when the line is crossed. Keeping it real is truly an admirable quality to have.

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