Break ups aren’t fun, I get it. I’ve been there.
But what I have learned from them is something that is of great importance.
People are going to break up and someone is going to move on, it’s life that’s what happens.
From being broken up with, to being the one who broke up with someone, relationships go both ways.
You fall in and out of love, and sometimes it hurts more than others.
But if there is one thing that I have learned from a break up, its not necessarily fair to hold a grudge.
So he moved on, so what?? You’re bound to move on as well.
But if the new girl in his life has not done anything to you, you can’t hate her no matter how much your instincts tell you too.
It is not her fault that he fell for her, and the things between the two of you fell apart.
Jealousy tends to fill us and we naturally get mad and jealous, but that is no reason to be mad at someone who was simply being herself.
That might have been you at one point. You were in a new relationship once and maybe your boyfriend’s ex felt the same way about you as you are feeling for this new girl.
But maybe you thought this boy was the one, but to be honest, if he really is, things will work out and you might find a way back to each other.
The waiting game sucks, trust me I’ve played it.
No matter how long you feel like you have to wait, or how long you’ve waited, you can’t shut down. You deserve to be happy, even if it is not with him.
Just because you might be heartbroken, you can’t just sit and be sad for yourself.
Sometimes you will overthink what happened and you will shut down, and that’s okay. It is one this to be sad, and its another to be angry.
You can be sad about what happened in the past, but you can’t be mad about the present.
This new girl is doing exactly what you did. She is living her life, he’s just in it She is caring for him, having fun with him, respecting him, supporting him, and loving him. Just like you did.
You were his “new girl” at some point to someone else, and you did the exact same thing that she is doing.
Just because he moved on, does not mean that you are now forgotten. He remembers the times you spent together, and he still thinks of you every once and a while. He didn’t block out the memories of you, he probably wont ever forget them.
He might not have deleted every picture of the two of you, or threw out everything you gave him.
His life just kept moving on.
From all the time that you spent together, you taught each other a lot of things.
When he moved on, he took everything he learned from you and put it into use.
In your mind you might think that this is a horrible thing, but it really isn’t. Because now he’s treating her in a better way because of what you taught him.
This is going to hurt to watch, believe me. It is probably the worst part of a break up.
But seeing him happy shouldn’t make you sad or angry, it should make you happy because you made him better. You helped him become a better guy.
And someday, you’re going to meet someone that was taught to be better by someone else. You’ll find the person that someone else taught so you didn’t have too, and instead you can just grow together.
So be thankful that you got to spend time with him, and be thankful that maybe he showed you how to love in a way that you didn’t know was possible.
Smile knowing that he is treating someone the right way because you showed him how. Smile even when the reality of your life moving on, hits you hard and very painfully.
You were his beginning, but you aren’t his end.
He was your beginning, but he isn’t your end.
You were able to leave an imprint on his character, on his heart, and the way that he will treat significant others in the future and it is one that he cannot erase.
So, move on. Be happy. Treat your future significant other right.
And most importantly, treat yourself right.
