Yes, I make mistakes. Some of those being second chances. But there is not one mistake that I truly regret in my life. I believe that second chances can be an amazing opportunity, whether they are given to you or you provide one. I wouldn’t think about taking one for granted.
I truly mean it when I say I don’t take second chances lightly or for granted. So I am sick of hearing that allowing second chances is a horrible decision and that it will only make things worse. Because I don’t believe that. I strongly do not believe that. I am happy that I have people looking out for me but at the same time I need to make my own mistakes and learn from them.
We were always told in school that not everyone learns the same. So please don’t assume that because you regretted your second chance doesn’t mean that I will regret mine. We are not one of the same nor is anyone in the world. We all interpret pain, logic and reasoning differently. You may have had your heart broken because of a second chance but please don’t push that onto me. I know what a broken heart is. And I do not plan on ending up with one, but if that is the way the universe wants my second chance to end so be it. I need to learn from it myself. So please don’t try to tell me when my heart is broken. I can make that decision on my own.
Second chances can be a way of coping, or trying to fix things that happened in the past. But those aren’t my reasons for my second chances. I want to move on and try to understand what may have happened previously. And even if I don’t that’s okay, because we’re moving past it. For anyone who ever thinks that second chances are a bad and stupid thing, I want you to know that I think about them. I don’t go into them with no previous knowledge or consideration of what might happen. I promise I have thought long and hard about the situation I am willing to put myself into. It is my decision and I know what kind I am making when I make it.
Now I am not saying that always choosing the second chance is a good idea; but I think when you have made a smart and conscious decision it could in fact help you in some way. With that said I know that I have made some not so great decisions to allow for second chances. So even when I give that second chance and open myself up to getting hurt again. I promise I think it is a good decision at the time. But when and if I do get hurt, those of you who thought it was a bad idea to start with please don’t say “I told you so.” I don’t want to hear about how you were right. Those four words can be more painful than getting hurt again. Because in my head I am already thinking that maybe I should have listened to you first, what would have happened then? Trust me I already know that I screwed up. So instead of saying “I told you so.” please try and understand and support me. Don’t make me feel more stupid than I probably already do.
Even when I make stupid decisions let me use all of my second chances on them. Every single one. It’s how I learn. I am stubborn and won’t listen, so make it easy on yourself and let me figure out that maybe second chances aren’t the best. But for now I still think are some of the world’s most incredible, magical, and thought-provoking things.
