The early years of your 20s are supposed to be about exploration, adventure, fun, individuality and freedom. It's a time to figure out what you want to do with the rest of you life as well as set long-term goals. But I like living in the moment and right now, I don't want to be in a relationship. I don't need to be in one at the moment and no one will change my mind. These are the reasons why.
1. Immaturity
Not mine, but theirs. I need someone who has a passion for something they love. Get off your high horse and get back to reality. I can't have someone cracking inappropriate jokes or catcalling at me. You won't find a keeper with those actions. I yearn for a deeper connection to a man who is willing to let me in but that is uncommon in young men around my age. They all get worked up about not seeming masculine if they show any kind of emotion. I am way over that. Ladies, we need standards. And we need to have high standards. Now you don't have to make crazy unrealistic ones. You won't end up with a great hubby if you don't set some good standards and allow those immature boys to go.
2. Trust
Blame the last guy I trusted then stabbed me in the back, repeatedly. Allowing someone into your life and giving everything you have to someone is a very vulnerable thing to do. In my circumstances, it hasn't done me well. Young men tend to boast about their accomplishments with women and I cannot have that. I refuse to have that actually. Every time my trust has been misused I moved on to the next guy in hopes this time around it will be "different".
3. Life
Sometimes I think to myself if you're with a person, you have to think about whether or not you see yourself spending a lot of time with them. Honestly, what is the point of spending time with someone romantically unless you are going to spend a long time with them? It's a personal opinion and you may not get married in the end but you will spend a while them that special someone. You are wasting your time as well as theirs if it is not committal. You could be finding the actual Mr. Right in someone else. Furthermore, I have made goals for myself to accomplish by a certain age. A relationship to me would mean putting them on hold. I need to put myself first this time and not let a relationship let me fall behind schedule. Nothing is going to get in my way of what I want: a steady life before I am ready to settle down.
4. Time
Currently, I have my schedule stuffed with activities, events and such that I barely have time to eat breakfast! It does not leave me enough time to commit to a person. I don't have the time to hang out with them, to call them and say 'hey', or make them feel good whenever they're down. I am incapable of giving the necessary time it takes to have a relationship. A relationship won't last unless time, communication and care are put into it. Someone who wants that passion and love deserves someone else. I can only give them a friendship at best.
5. Commitment
Commitment can go hand in hand with the previous reasons. It's difficult for someone who wants to commit to one person in college and make that a lasting, serious relationship. When there's thousands of beautiful, tempting women around them. But my commitments aren't there either. I have put my priorities in other commitments and a relationship isn't on my radar. I can't show my commitment to someone I care about if I don't have the time to do so. It isn't fair for either of us.
My life decisions are my choices so let's keep it that way. I don't want a relationship until I know all the circumstances and man is right.
