We all have them. Frenemies, haters, lingering exes, people we love to hate. Toxic people come in many shapes and forms in all of our lives, sometimes disguised as the people we think we love the most.
Tell me this, are there people in your life that don't support you? People who think your dreams are too big, your views are wrong, or those that never seem to be quite as excited or happy for you as you are for them. Take a minute, and think about what purpose those people are serving in your life. It's okay. I'll wait. Do they make you feel good about yourself? Do they sing your praises? Do they believe in you? No? Hmmm. Maybe these people are seemingly competitive with you. Over guys, over grades, or over jobs? Are these the people that you hesitate before sharing good news with because you know that they will put a negative spin on it or damper your excitement in some way?
Or maybe, there are people in your life, relationships you have with some people that are toxic. Maybe there's someone in your life that gives you attention, affection, or support only to take it away whenever they see fit. Maybe there's a person in your life that you keep coming back to, even though you know they will never be able to give you want you want from them. These people are toxic too. Maybe they don't intend to be, but it's your feelings towards them that are toxic. Consistently putting yourself in a place where another person is in control of whether you are happy or not is toxic.
Maybe there are relationships in your life that turned sour. Ex-lovers or ex-friends that you can't let go of. Situations with people that you beat yourself up about or haven't forgiven yourself for. Those feelings? They are toxic too. Forgive yourself for those who are no longer in your life no matter whose fault it was that your connection was severed. Either learn to live with the reality of the situation or find a way to make peace with that person, or at least with yourself.
Finally, and I truly mean this. Run the hell away from the toxic person in your life, even if that person is you. Run away from the parts of you that are telling you that you are never enough. Run screaming away from your insecurities, your doubts and the feeling that you will never be the person you want to be. If there is one toxic person you absolutely need to let go of, it is the person you were yesterday, last year, or five minutes ago. If that person makes you feel terrible about who you are, where you are, and what you are doing, that person needs to go too.
Run as fast you can into the arms of the people who love you, support you and make you feel like you are the amazing, brilliant, strong and perfect person that you are. Delete, unfollow, unfriend and forget anything and anyone that makes you feel anything less.
