To The Roommate Who Ruined My Dorm Experience

To The Roommate Who Ruined My Dorm Experience

"This is gonna be like when Naya Rivera wrote her tell-all book about how it sucked working on Glee ." -My boyfriend
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"This is gonna be like when Naya Rivera wrote her tell-all book about how it sucked working on 'Glee'." -My boyfriend

Living in the dorms is supposed to be the best part of your freshman year of college. It's where you'll make life-long friends, potentially lovers and memories that you'll reminisce about for years to come. Unfortunately, for a lot of people, including myself, that was not the case.

Finding a perfect roommate was a struggle in itself. I had two friends who wanted to room with me, but upon talking to many, they advised that it may ruin our friendship, which I didn't want.

Instead, I used a Facebook page that was set up by my college, to meet new people. On this page, I talked to many potential roomies, but I found one that I thought was for me.

The girl I found was awesome. She liked sports, playing Wii, was from the same state, had the same sense of humor as me, and much more. We hit it off right away. We decided to room together for our freshman year.

We finally met four months later, on move-in day. It was okay. We talked a little, but nothing too deep. I expected this; We wouldn't get close right away, but it would take time. I tried talking to her about everything; her boyfriend, her interests, her past, but she was extremely anti-social. I didn't make much of this, as I know I can be awkward in a new situation.

The main reason we didn't work was due to her "rules" she had for our room. My boyfriend was over a total of two times; He never slept over, never stayed late, but it was always an issue for her.

I invited two friends over to eat once, and when I returned that night, she told me she didn't want people in the room because she didn't like the people I brought over. I was taken back by this because her boyfriend was always over and it felt as though he never left.

The main reason dorm-life was ruined for me was because of her boyfriend. Her boyfriend is always drunk or on some kind of drug, and she would always babysit him.

Whenever she would have class, she would leave him alone in the room and he would make unwanted sexual remarks and advances at me, and it made me crazy uncomfortable. I would always talk to my parents and my boyfriend about it, and after long, I wouldn't go to my room without someone else.

The last straw was when her boyfriend came on to me and pushed my hair behind my ear and told me I should "chill" with him. This event pushed me over the edge and I called my dad in tears and told him that I want to move out.

He didn't even ask why; He just knew that I wasn't happy or safe, and I had to get out as soon as I could. I planned this on a Wednesday and two days later, I was moved out and ten million times happier.

Now, I am safer, happier, and much more relaxed. I can do basic things a college student does without being ridiculed, invite people over without being scolded for it, and I can live my life without fearing for my safety, because of a random man.

So thank you ex-roommate. Thank you for ruining my dorm-experience and stressing me out more than you should have.

Thank you for making me appreciate the little things, like calling my mom three times a day, going home and watching old television shows with my dad, and laying in bed with my boyfriend, in pure silence. Anything was better than living with you, so thank you for showing me that.

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To The Friends I Won't Talk To After High School

I sincerely hope, every great quality I saw in you, was imprinted on the world.
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Hey,

So, for the last four years I’ve seen you almost everyday. I’ve learned about your annoying little brother, your dogs and your crazy weekend stories. I’ve seen you rock the awful freshman year fashion, date, attend homecoming, study for AP tests, and get accepted into college.

Thank you for asking me about my day, filling me in on your boy drama and giving me the World History homework. Thank you for complimenting my outfits, laughing at me presenting in class and listening to me complain about my parents. Thank you for sending me your Quizlets and being excited for my accomplishments- every single one of them. I appreciate it all because I know that soon I won’t really see you again. And that makes me sad. I’ll no longer see your face every Monday morning, wave hello to you in the hallways or eat lunch with you ever again. We won't live in the same city and sooner or later you might even forget my name.

We didn’t hang out after school but none the less you impacted me in a huge way. You supported my passions, stood up for me and made me laugh. You gave me advice on life the way you saw it and you didn’t have to but you did. I think maybe in just the smallest way, you influenced me. You made me believe that there’s lots of good people in this world that are nice just because they can be. You were real with me and that's all I can really ask for. We were never in the same friend group or got together on the weekends but you were still a good friend to me. You saw me grow up before your eyes and watched me walk into class late with Starbucks every day. I think people like you don’t get enough credit because I might not talk to you after high school but you are still so important to me. So thanks.

With that said, I truly hope that our paths cross one day in the future. You can tell me about how your brothers doing or how you regret the college you picked. Or maybe one day I’ll see you in the grocery store with a ring on your finger and I’ll be so happy you finally got what you deserved so many guys ago.

And if we ever do cross paths, I sincerely hope you became everything you wanted to be. I hope you traveled to Italy, got your dream job and found the love of your life. I hope you have beautiful children and a fluffy dog named Charlie. I hope you found success in love before wealth and I hope you depended on yourself for happiness before anything else. I hope you visited your mom in college and I hope you hugged your little sister every chance you got. She’s in high school now and you always tell her how that was the time of your life. I sincerely hope, every great quality I saw in you, was imprinted on the world.

And hey, maybe I’ll see you at the reunion and maybe just maybe you’ll remember my face. If so, I’d like to catch up, coffee?

Sincerely,

Me

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