I Didn't Room With My High School Best Friend In College

I Didn't Room With My High School Best Friend In College

It was the best decision we ever made.

When I found out my best friend from high school was going to the same college as me, I was over the moon. I wouldn't have to say any tearful goodbyes or worry about keeping in touch.

We would both be living on campus! She would live closer to me at our university than she does while at home. So, of course, the question came up: should we be roommates?

Of course, our initial reaction was, "YES, IT WILL BE LIKE A SLEEPOVER EVERY NIGHT!"

This would guarantee that we would see each other every single day of freshman year, no matter what. We already knew the habits we both had, and we've had sleepovers before. What would make college any different?

Then I spoke to a friend of mine who already attended the same university I would be going to. His biggest piece of advice was, "Do NOT room with your best friend." He had an awful experience and had the same mindset I did while going to college.

You don't truly know someone until you've lived with them. The situation had been so bad that they still are not speaking to each other. This was the last thing that I would ever want for myself and my best friend.

I discussed it all with her, and we both came to the conclusion that we wouldn't live together for our first year. This would give us the chance to spread our wings, meet new people, and find ourselves. Our majors are similar anyway, so it's not like we would never see each other.

As graduation and move-in day came closer, we grew more excited, found our roommates, and had our room assignments. Turns out, we would be living right down the hall from each other.

We ended up having the time of our lives during our first year. We were close enough to each other that if we needed company, we were just down the hall.

At the same time, it was just enough space to develop separately and grow our friendship in a new way. Not to mention that our roommates were pretty awesome and we all got along.

My freshman roommate is now best friends with my high school best friend, and the three of us are living together next semester with one other friend. We will have our own separate rooms but share a living space together.

I am so glad that we made this decision. If my best friend and I lived with each other freshman year, who knows what would have happened? We have both grown, met so many people, and started a big friend group of our own. I can't wait to start this next chapter with her.

I love ya, Alex.

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To The Grandmothers Who Made Us The Women We Are Today

Sincerely, the loving granddaughters.

The relationship between a grandmother and her granddaughter is something so uniquely special and something to be treasured forever.

Your grandma loves you like you are her own daughter and adores you no matter what. She is the first person you run to when you have a problem with your parents and she never fails to grace you with the most comforting advice.

She may be guilty of spoiling you rotten but still makes sure to stress the importance of being thankful and kind.

Your grandma has most likely lived through every obstacle that you are experiencing now as a young adult and always knows just exactly what to say.

She grew up in another generation where things were probably much harder for young women than they are today.

She is a walking example of perseverance, strength, and grace who you aim to be like someday.

Your grandma teaches you the lessons she had to learn the hard way because she does not want you to make the same mistakes she did when she was growing up.

Her hugs never fail to warm your heart, her smile never fails to make you smile, and her laugh never fails to brighten your day.

She inspires you to be the best version of yourself that you can be.

You only hope that one day you can be the mother and grandmother she was to you.

A piece of girl’s heart will forever belong to her grandma that no one could ever replace.

She is the matriarch of your family and is the glue that holds you all together.

Grandmothers play such an important role in helping their granddaughters to grow into strong, intelligent, kind women.

She teaches you how to love and how to forgive.

Without the unconditional love of your grandma, you would not be the woman you are today.

To all of the grandmothers out there, thank you for being you.


the loving granddaughters

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What It's Actually Like Moving States

How a central Iowa born and raised native ended up in Southern Missouri.


Not a lot of people think moving states is a hard thing to do. If it's two hours away or, like me, seven hours away from your hometown, a move is a move and it can affect people in different ways.

Personally, my family was separated for a year, my mom and I still living in our hometown so I could finish high school, and my dad in Missouri working at his new job.

Then, in June my mom and I made the move so our family could be together once again. For us, we still had our home in Iowa, so my parents and I lived in an apartment until we could sell our home in Iowa and find what we wanted in Missouri.

The hardest things to get used too is the lifestyle of people in southern Missouri. People are a lot different down here than they were in Iowa. It was a big deal for us to move down here and adapt to a different lifestyle.

Something minor that was very hard to get used to was the usage of pop and soda. Most people don't even know what a "pop," is. In Iowa, a Pepsi or Coke is known as pop but down here it is called a soda.

That is just one example that was super hard to get used to. Something that is a little more of a big deal is the size of the city. In Iowa, I could get a coffee in about a five-minute drive. In Missouri, it takes a good fifteen minutes to drive there and who knows what the line will be like at the coffee shop. Those are minor things that my family struggled with adapting to.

Easily, the hardest thing was leaving friends and family. I came to Branson in the middle summer. This limited my job opportunities to none and made making new friends next to impossible.

This made my summer really hard and honestly boring. I knew this was best for my family, but I missed my friends and I wanted to be back in Iowa where all my friends were and my job used to be.

There were also a lot of perks from moving away from Iowa. First off, I completely went off the grid of my town and wanted to start completely new. I made new social media accounts and got a new phone number.

This made the transition easy because I was able to be who I wanted to be and keep in touch with the people I wanted to keep in touch with. This is something that a lot of people thought was pointless, but was such an important step for a fresh start.

Coming to Missouri, I know that sky is the limit and I have so many more opportunities of what I want to do. Overall, I would suggest moving states and starting knew. It feels good to finally be in a place that makes you truly happy as well as your family. Iowa is a fun place to visit sometimes and I'll always miss the sunsets but Missouri is my new home.

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