4 Famous Unhealthy Relationships Romanticized By The Media

4 Famous Unhealthy Relationships Romanticized By The Media

Famous couples in movies and television shows influence us to idolize dangerous aspects of relationships.
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"Relationship goals." What does that even mean? We have slowly become consumed throughout this digital age by the idolization of couples in movies/television shows. It's not that we are setting unrealistic goals for ourselves and our future partners, but we are taking these poor examples of true love and putting them on pedestals. Through various couples in movies/television shows, we are being trained to praise and encourage relationships that are abusive and unhealthy. Just to name a few, these couples are leading us down the road to distorted relationships that will end in disaster when pursued in real life.

1) Danny and Sandy

You were a Pink Lady for Halloween at least once as a child and as soon as a song from Grease comes on, it is no surprise that you can recite every lyric. We were raised on this classic love story, which is why it is so hard to consider how awful the relationship between Sandy and Danny is. For starters, Danny attempts to inappropriately touch Sandy without her permission and when she denies him, he proceeds to make loud sexual noises as if the two are getting wild in his car for all to hear. He even hides behind menus so no one can see them on a date, showing how embarrassed he is of her. No matter how much you enjoy the entertaining musical numbers and adorable outfits throughout this film, you must be absolutely blind to not see how messed up the final scene is. Wrapping up the film, Sandy decides to completely change her appearance solely to impress Danny. What an awful message this movie gives off: change yourself so a man will like you.

2) Noah and Allie

Ah, The Notebook, everyone's favorite chick flick. On the surface, one might see the Notebook as a film about two people that would do anything for one another, how adorable. But in reality, this couple is not anywhere near "relationship goals." In one scene, you see Allie and Noah fighting and Allie ends up forcefully shoving Noah. Just because Allie is a female, most people disregard the fact that this is physical abuse. At one point, Allie breaks up with Noah and then proceeds to ask in a panic, "we're not really breaking up, are we?" AFTER. she. just. broke. up. with. him. We are romanticizing what we all hate in relationships: lack of communication and not saying how we feel. It is not healthy to push someone away to see if they will retreat back to you.

3) Chuck and Blair

CHUCK TRADED BLAIR FOR A HOTEL! That is all I have to say to anyone who tries to argue that this relationship is remotely okay. First of all, the two are the most inconsistent couple to ever appear on television, and when they aren't together, they are trying to ruin each other. Do you really love someone if you're only looking out for them when you're together? After all of their fighting, the two always make up with some sort of lavish gift. In real life, everything can't be fixed with a bouquet of peonies and an apology. Instead of working through their differences and communicating, the two just disregard their issues and spend money on one another.

4) Harley Quinn and the Joker



If I see one more tweet about how these two are perfect for each other because they are equally crazy and obsessed with each other, I might scream. Originally, I used to defend those who idolized this couple mainly because I assumed that they only saw the movie, Suicide Squad, and they didn't do their research on the backstory via comics. Now, after seeing the movie, I have realized that there is no way to defend the relationship between these two. Even if your only knowledge of this couple is from the movie, you can see how abusive their relationship is. From the beginning, The Joker doesn't love Harley. When Harley was the Joker's doctor, he tricks her into loving him and even uses unnecessary shock therapy to screw with her brain. At one point, Harley jumps into acid to prove her love for The Joker. If you read up on the comics, you'd know that the Joker treats Harley like a punching bag. She disregards all of his poor behavior just like most women who suffer from abuse: turning a blind eye.

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When You Give A Girl A Dad

You give her everything
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They say that any male can be a father, but it takes a special person to be a dad. That dads are just the people that created the child, so to speak, but rather, dads raise their children to be the best they can be. Further, when you give a little girl a dad, you give her much more than a father; you give her the world in one man.


When you give a girl a dad, you give her a rock.

Life is tough, and life is constantly changing directions and route. In a world that's never not moving, a girl needs something stable. She needs something that won't let her be alone; someone that's going to be there when life is going great, and someone who is going to be there for her when life is everything but ideal. Dads don't give up on this daughters, they never will.


When you give a girl a dad, you give her a role model.

If we never had someone to look up to, we would never have someone to strive to be. When you give a little girl someone to look up to, you give her someone to be. We copy their mannerisms, we copy their habits, and we copy their work ethic. Little girls need someone to show them the world, so that they can create their own.


When you give a girl a dad, you give her the first boy she will ever love.

And I'm not really sure someone will ever be better than him either. He's the first guy to take your heart, and every person you love after him is just a comparison to his endless, unmatchable love. He shows you your worth, and he shows you what your should be treated like: a princess.


When you give a girl a dad, you give her someone to make proud.

After every softball game, soccer tournament, cheerleading competition, etc., you can find every little girl looking up to their dads for their approval. Later in life, they look to their dad with their grades, internships, and little accomplishments. Dads are the reason we try so hard to be the best we can be. Dads raised us to be the very best at whatever we chose to do, and they were there to support you through everything. They are the hardest critics, but they are always your biggest fans.


When you give a girl a dad, you give her a credit card.

It's completely true. Dads are the reason we have the things we have, thank the Lord. He's the best to shop with too, since he usually remains outside the store the entire time till he is summoned in to forge the bill. All seriousness, they always give their little girls more than they give themselves, and that's something we love so much about you.


When you give a girl a dad, you give her a shoulder to cry on.

When you fell down and cut yourself, your mom looked at you and told you to suck it up. But your dad, on the other hand, got down on the ground with you, and he let you cry. Then later on, when you made a mistake, or broke up with a boy, or just got sad, he was there to dry your tears and tell you everything was going to be okay, especially when you thought the world was crashing down. He will always be there to tell you everything is going to be okay, even when they don't know if everything is going to be okay. That's his job.


When you give a girl a dad, you give her a lifelong best friend.

My dad was my first best friend, and he will be my last. He's stood by me when times got tough, he carried me when I just couldn't do it anymore, and he yelled at me when I deserved it; but the one thing he has never done was give up on me. He will always be the first person I tell good news to, and the last person I ever want to disappoint. He's everything I could ever want in a best friend and more.


Dads are something out of a fairytale. They are your prince charming, your knight in shinny amour, and your fairy godfather. Dads are the reasons we are the people we are today; something that a million "thank you"' will never be enough for.

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15 Thing Only Early 2000's Kids Will Understand

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This is it early 2000's babies, a compilation finally made for you. This list is loaded with things that will make you swoon with nostalgia.

1. Not being accepted by the late 90's kids.

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Contrary to what one may think, late 90's and early 00's kids had the same childhood, but whenever a 00's kid says they remember something on an "only 90's kids will understand" post they are ridiculed.

2. Fortune tellers.

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Every day in elementary school you would whip one of these bad boys out of your desk, and proceed to tell all of your classmates what lifestyle they were going to live and who they were going to marry.

3.Bunnicula

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You could never read this book past 8 o'clock at night out of fear that your beloved pet rabbit would come after you.

4. Silly bands.

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You vividly remember begging your parents to buy you $10 worth of cheap rubber bands that vaguely resembles the shape of an everyday object.

5. Parachutes.

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The joy and excitement that washed over you whenever you saw the gym teacher pull out the huge rainbow parachute. The adrenaline that pumped through your veins whenever your gym teacher tells you the pull the chute under you and sit to make a huge "fort".

6. Putty Erasers

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You always bought one whenever there was a school store.

7. iPod shuffle.

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The smallest, least technological iPpd apple has made, made you the coolest kid at the bus stop.

8. "Education Connection"

You knew EVERY wood to the "Education Connection" commercials. Every. Single.Word.

9. " The Naked Brothers Band"

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The "Naked Brothers Band" had a short run on Nickelodeon and wrote some absolute bangers including, "Crazy Car' and "I Don't Wanna Go To School"

10. Dance Dance Revolution

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This one video game caused so many sibling, friend, and parent rivalries. This is also where you learned all of your super sick dance moves.

11. Tamagotchi

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Going to school with fear of your Tamagotchi dying while you were away was your biggest worry.

12. Gym Scooters

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You, or somebody you know most likely broke or jammed their finger on one of these bad boys, but it was worth it.

13. Scholastic book fairs

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Begging your parents for money to buy a new book, and then actually spending it on pens, pencils, erasers, and posters.

14.Go-Gurt

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Who knew that putting yogurt in a plastic tube made it taste so much better?

15. Slap Bracelets

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Your school probably banned these for being "too dangerous".

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