4 Famous Unhealthy Relationships Romanticized By The Media

4 Famous Unhealthy Relationships Romanticized By The Media

Famous couples in movies and television shows influence us to idolize dangerous aspects of relationships.
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"Relationship goals." What does that even mean? We have slowly become consumed throughout this digital age by the idolization of couples in movies/television shows. It's not that we are setting unrealistic goals for ourselves and our future partners, but we are taking these poor examples of true love and putting them on pedestals. Through various couples in movies/television shows, we are being trained to praise and encourage relationships that are abusive and unhealthy. Just to name a few, these couples are leading us down the road to distorted relationships that will end in disaster when pursued in real life.

1) Danny and Sandy

You were a Pink Lady for Halloween at least once as a child and as soon as a song from Grease comes on, it is no surprise that you can recite every lyric. We were raised on this classic love story, which is why it is so hard to consider how awful the relationship between Sandy and Danny is. For starters, Danny attempts to inappropriately touch Sandy without her permission and when she denies him, he proceeds to make loud sexual noises as if the two are getting wild in his car for all to hear. He even hides behind menus so no one can see them on a date, showing how embarrassed he is of her. No matter how much you enjoy the entertaining musical numbers and adorable outfits throughout this film, you must be absolutely blind to not see how messed up the final scene is. Wrapping up the film, Sandy decides to completely change her appearance solely to impress Danny. What an awful message this movie gives off: change yourself so a man will like you.

2) Noah and Allie

Ah, The Notebook, everyone's favorite chick flick. On the surface, one might see the Notebook as a film about two people that would do anything for one another, how adorable. But in reality, this couple is not anywhere near "relationship goals." In one scene, you see Allie and Noah fighting and Allie ends up forcefully shoving Noah. Just because Allie is a female, most people disregard the fact that this is physical abuse. At one point, Allie breaks up with Noah and then proceeds to ask in a panic, "we're not really breaking up, are we?" AFTER. she. just. broke. up. with. him. We are romanticizing what we all hate in relationships: lack of communication and not saying how we feel. It is not healthy to push someone away to see if they will retreat back to you.

3) Chuck and Blair

CHUCK TRADED BLAIR FOR A HOTEL! That is all I have to say to anyone who tries to argue that this relationship is remotely okay. First of all, the two are the most inconsistent couple to ever appear on television, and when they aren't together, they are trying to ruin each other. Do you really love someone if you're only looking out for them when you're together? After all of their fighting, the two always make up with some sort of lavish gift. In real life, everything can't be fixed with a bouquet of peonies and an apology. Instead of working through their differences and communicating, the two just disregard their issues and spend money on one another.

4) Harley Quinn and the Joker



If I see one more tweet about how these two are perfect for each other because they are equally crazy and obsessed with each other, I might scream. Originally, I used to defend those who idolized this couple mainly because I assumed that they only saw the movie, Suicide Squad, and they didn't do their research on the backstory via comics. Now, after seeing the movie, I have realized that there is no way to defend the relationship between these two. Even if your only knowledge of this couple is from the movie, you can see how abusive their relationship is. From the beginning, The Joker doesn't love Harley. When Harley was the Joker's doctor, he tricks her into loving him and even uses unnecessary shock therapy to screw with her brain. At one point, Harley jumps into acid to prove her love for The Joker. If you read up on the comics, you'd know that the Joker treats Harley like a punching bag. She disregards all of his poor behavior just like most women who suffer from abuse: turning a blind eye.

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10 TV Shows that were Canceled Before Their Time

They should have been given a real chance.
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Television shows have been a staple in many homes around the world for almost 100 years. During that time, multiple shows have come and gone without being given the opportunity to really get on their feet.

Some were of low quality and could have just been pulled because of it; while many others were excellent...but due to low ratings, were canceled by their network. I asked TV junkies on Tumblr and Oh No They Didn't which shows they thought were undeserved victims of such an injustice. Here were the top 10.

1. "Pushing Daisies"

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This was overwhelmingly named as the top show that got treated dirty by the network, ABC. It was bright and colorful, literally, and had a gripping story of Ned, a piemaker (Lee Pace), who had the ability to bring dead people back to life with just a single touch. He used this talent to help solve murder cases. Throw in dynamic characters, such as the private investigator, played by Chi McBride; and Olive, portrayed by the amazing Kristin Chenoweth, it's a shame this show didn't make it past three seasons. It was canceled in 2009.

2. "Selfie"

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This sitcom was another casualty of ABC. It was a modern-day version of "My Fair Lady." Granted, neither its title, nor its pilot, were very appealing, but it really hit its stride on the third episode. Plus, John Cho as the romantic lead? Yes, please. Sadly, the ratings did not improve by midseason. ABC pulled it in 2015 after airing only 13 episodes.

3. "Don't Trust the B**** in Apartment 23"

Yet another show that ABC canceled (it's not intentional, I swear!). Starring a pre-"Jessica Jones" Krysten Ritter, it centered around Chloe, a party girl who intentionally tries to scare off her roommates. Featuring a fictionalized version of James Van Der Beek (yes, that James Van Der Beek), the series received much praise from critics, but its ratings did not agree. ABC canceled it midseason in January 2013.

4. "Freaks and Geeks"

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Moving over to NBC for this one, "Freaks and Geeks" starred young Linda Cardellini, James Franco and Seth Rogen. It followed brother/sister duo Lindsay and Sam Weir as they befriend different groups in their new high school, the "freaks" and the "geeks." Low ratings only allowed NBC to initially air 12 of the 18 episodes in the fall of 1999. Fan outcry caused the network to air the remaining six episodes on the Fox Family Channel in September 2000.

5. "Galavant"

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Back to ABC, "Galavant" was campy, fun and musical. With the music and lyrics co-written by Alan Menken (known for conducting much of the Disney songs we know and love), the show centered around a knight called Sir Galavant and his rivalry with King Richard. Comedy and songs throughout made it a fun story, which began airing in the 2015 midseason. Its second season kicked off with an episode poking fun at its low ratings and precarious status before ABC canceled it in spring 2016.

6. "Better Off Ted"

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Another ABC sitcom and this is a show that I had never actually heard of, but its title came up a lot in the polls. It was a satire about a single father (Jay Harrington), who was the head of the research and development department at a large corporation. Costarring Portia de Rossi, the series premiered in March 2009, but its ratings dropped each week, forcing a cancellation in Jan. 2010.

7. "Kings"

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Not to be confused with a Canadian show with a similar name, "Kings" was on NBC for a mere 12 episodes in 2009. It starred the always terrific Ian McShane in a futuristic version of what was eerily similar to the Bible story of King David. NBC aired the first five episodes in March 2009, then concluded airing its other seven episodes that July before announcing its cancellation.

8. "Firefly"

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I was surprised that this one did not make it higher on the list. Even today, fans still talk about the unfair treatment it received from Fox Network. The story took place in the year 2517 on various planets and star systems in space. It centered around a crew aboard the Serenity, a "Firefly-class" spaceship, captained by Malcolm Reynolds (Nathan Fillion). It premiered on Fox in September 2002, but then the network announced its cancellation after only 11 episodes were aired. Fan popularity and fan campaigns led to a movie, "Serenity," released in 2005, followed by a fan-made documentary in 2006.

9. "Rome"

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The only cable show on this list, "Rome" was a historical drama set in first century BC during the time when Ancient Rome was transitioning into an empire. The characters were loosely based on real people from history, but the protagonists were two fictional soldiers by the names of Lucius Vorenus, played by Kevin McKidd, and Titus Pullo, played by Ray Stevenson.

It ran for two seasons on HBO, as well as the British Broadcasting Company, from August 2005 through March 2007. Unlike the other shows on the list, its reason for the cancellation was not because of low ratings but because the show was very expensive to film. Allegedly, there is currently a movie script based on the show being shopped around to different production companies.

10. "My So-Called Life"

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Ending this list with, of course, another show canceled by ABC. Though, this one was a drama, not a sitcom. It premiered in August 1994 and starred Claire Danes as Angela Chase, an insecure teenager who encounters hardships in her social circle. The show dealt with heavy issues such as child abuse, homophobia and school violence. It received acclaim from critics, as well as a Golden Globe win for Danes. However, it succumbed to its low ratings in 1995, after only 19 episodes were aired.

Do you agree with this list? What other shows do you think should have made it on here? Do you feel like going back and watching any of these shows, and then screaming at the unfairness of its network for taking them off the air?

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We Can't Choose Our Born Appearance, But We Can Choose Our Tattoos

For the first time in my life, I felt beautiful and comfortable in my own skin.
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On a Saturday afternoon, I received my first tattoo. Not in an act of rebellion or consummation of my newfound privileges as an adult, but rather in a calculated decision to take ownership over the aesthetics of my own body.

Without an appointment, I walked into the tattoo parlor with my friend Rachel. The musty, carpeted staircase and dim lights created an atmosphere of suspicion. I nudged her, “This is where I die, right?” “Yeah, definitely.”

There was a collection of bold artwork hung on the bright yellow walls, everything from demonic warrior bugs to naked skeletal figures, the screamo music a real punch to the ears – I’m more of a classical music fan. The women at the front desk walked me through the process and assisted me in choosing a final design.

Nothing too extravagant, I thought. Music is life–a cliche, I know, but true nonetheless. I remember playing the piano alongside my American Girl Dolls, pressing single C and D down in succession, with my thumb and index fingers.

Twelve years later, I whipped around the keyboard playing Chopin Polonaises and Scriabin Etudes. To this day, I cannot prevent my fingers from tapping away on desks and countertops, the music perpetually flowing through my body. Music made me who I am – I wanted to commemorate that. And I wanted to express who I am inside on the outside.

I laid down on the table. The tattoo machine buzzed and shocked my skin at first: “Are you alright?” the tattoo artist asked. “I’m fine.” I was momentarily in shock, but the machine felt more like a deep tickle.

We have no choice in our born appearance. However, we do have the agency to style our hair, choose our clothes, tattoo our skin, pierce our ears and various body parts, etc.

The empowerment I felt when I first took off the bandage is an unmatched experience. I looked at my body in the mirror and saw someone closer to my true self.

For the first time in my life, I felt beautiful and comfortable in my own skin.

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