I’m sure there have been multiple times in your life where you’ve heard that someone was the right person, but it was the wrong time. I’m here to say that this statement is false. There’s a good chance that there’s going to be a time where you’re in a relationship that is going to seem like “the one.” You’re going to swear that you have never felt this way in your life before.
This relationship is one where it’s not a question of if you’re going to get married, but rather when you’re going to get married. It’s going to be the one where the idea of having kids together is not crazy, but rather you talk about how many you’re going to have and where you’re going to raise them. You’re going to constantly want to remind them just how much you love them, how you would do anything for them. If you’re lucky, this relationship will result in a happy forever together. That’s not always the case however, and it’s extremely painful when it ends.
When your ideal relationship ends, it’s going to feel like someone has punched you in the stomach, knocking every ounce of air out of you. There is a good chance that you are going to want to give up on relationships for good and become an emotional disaster of a hermit who never leaves their house. And no matter how it ends, there’s a chance you are going to be left wondering what you did wrong and if they’re going to come back. You might turn to your friends and family who will feed you this idea that if you were meant to be, they’ll find their way back. I’m slowly learning that this rarely happens but guess what. That’s okay.
You’re going to convince yourself that they were the right person but the timing was off. Maybe they weren’t ready for commitment and needed to grow up. This may be the truth but that doesn’t make them the right person for you. The right person for you is going to make you feel like you’ve never felt before. The right person is going to treat you as if nothing else in the world matters. The right person is going to make you their top priority, regardless of whether or not you think you deserve it. The right person is going to pick you up when you’re down and be there for you when you’re at your happiest. The right person is going to stay by your side regardless of what happens. If your relationship didn’t work out, it’s for a reason, even if you don’t think so right now. It’s shaping you to be a stronger and happier individual.
In our messed up dating lives, I think we all forget these things and we settle. Why settle on something that is supposed to be so life changing? Why settle on something when you could be treated better than you ever expected? And although I’m sure you will hear this on multiple occasions in your life, you have to learn to love yourself before you can truly learn to love someone else. When you love yourself, you know what you deserve and what you won’t put up with. I know you might be heartbroken right now and I know you might be wondering if they’re going to come back and things will be fixed but I can’t stress the importance of taking this heartbreak as a lesson. Learn to love yourself some more. Look back and figure out what you want and don’t want in a relationship. That way when the right one comes around, you will be so ready and you will get your happily ever after. After all, that’s what we all want, right?
