For the last few weeks I’ve been agonizing over a decision. I’ve consulted friends, colleagues, my mother, my boyfriend, and many people who I trust and love. I have weighed the facts and figures, looked at my feelings and personal choices, weighed the pros and cons, and have done a lot of thinking and analyzing.
I spent a large chunk of my free time thinking and talking about this decision so I could be sure that I was making the right move for the right reasons. And when I finally settled on my choice, I felt good about it. Here’s how you know when you made the right move.
- Your gut has been nudging you in one way
- The people you trust listen to you and talk you through the options and end up at the same conclusion you have.
- You find out that there are some sacrifices or changes that will come with the decision and you make peace with them relatively quickly.
- The slightly queasy feeling you get when you think about not making the decision is distinct from the butterflies of anticipation you get when you consider making the decision
- You do actual calculations where the end result directs you to make the change.
- Your pros and cons list have way more pros than cons. (An obvious indicator)
- When you finally make the decision, you feel like a weight has lifted off your shoulders
- When you inform mentors and people you love and trust about your decision they are genuinely happy and excited for you
- You stand firm in the face of others trying to change your mind. Even when you are offered things that would have swayed you before.
- You can feel in your heart and know in your mind that you are making a decision that will make you happier in the long run
- You are excited about the potential of what the change will hold for you.
- You feel confident in your decision and know the fluttering in your stomach are anxious butterflies of anticipation, not sad and droopy butterflies of making the wrong choice.
