A Reminder To Myself Going Into This New Year

A Reminder To Myself Going Into This New Year

Most people make some type of resolution for each new year, but many people don't follow through with them because they shoot too high.

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Although I hope for many new things this year, I have one resolution that I want to focus on. Instead of calling it a resolution, I want to think of it as a reminder, and I hope that by putting it into writing, I can look back at it as a constant reminder.

For the new year and every year to follow, I want to live in the moment. We're all guilty of focusing on the future and obsessing over things out of our reach and about things that haven't happened yet, but I want to be grateful for the things going on now. I want to appreciate the good moments, the small moments, and I even want to live during the moments that seem too tough to handle.

This past year I've stressed too much, and I realized I stress about things I can't change more than I do appreciating things I don't want to change. Everyone has heard the saying, "Instead of asking yourself 'Why is this happening to me?,' ask yourself, 'What is this teaching me?," and I want to remember that every time I feel like giving up.

I've been focusing on transferring schools, and I haven't been focusing on the school I go to now. I want to meet new people, go to parties, and be more involved until one day I won't get the chance. I've given up so many opportunities by waiting for new ones to arise. I also focus more on a career I may have in the future instead of appreciating where I work now and who I work with. I'm passing by opportunities and moments every day without realizing it. When I look back on this time in my life, I don't want to regret it. I don't want to think that I should've been appreciated or lived the fullest while I had the chance. I want to laugh and smile now, so I can look back and laugh and smile more. I want to remember being happy and loving every memory I make out of this time.

This year I don't want to dedicate the year to myself - I want to dedicate this year to everyone around me and everything going on. This year is about positivity, happiness, and enjoying life. If anyone needs a reminder to live in the moment, look at this article and remind yourself that every day brings something new, and everything has to end whether that be good or bad. I pass up too many good things anticipating what comes next. I don't want to take this life for granted. I want to live.

My fortune in my fortune cookie said, "Stop searching for forever. Happiness is sitting right next to you," and if that's not a sign, I don't know what is. Happiness is now. Happiness is this moment all those that continue. Happiness is me.

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To The High School Senior, It's Not All About College Applications

Finish strong, be mindful of your needs, and live in peace.

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I wish I could have said this all last year, that you will never have it as easy as you do right now. It's the end of the road for childhood and you're wondering what else do I do with my life now that I'm going to college? It's a mix of emotions and feelings that are hard to process. My goal is telling you this is the year to do everything fun and live like you haven't before. This doesn't mean skip school on the daily and get bad grades(it matters until the end because of college).

But above all else, don't let college applications define your year. People think applying to college is the story of what happens senior year(which is mostly true but I promise that is not the only thing that matters). There is so much more to life than college applications and laughing how everyone becomes depressed their last year from being around the same people. If I could tell myself last year, it would be this:

First, it would be to not argue with people at all. This last year is simply too scared to fight and argue with people over nothing. Do your best to be kind to everyone and not cause problems for other people. Everyone deserves to have a nice senior year.

Second, enjoy being able to live in your own room and not share with anyone else. Once you get to college there's going to be a lot of unnecessary noise that you sort of get used to living with.

Next, do not take an abundance of college classes. They're only going to help you but so much and you're not going to want to do the work anyway. Don't be one of those people who does this and doesn't feel the need to have a social life. It's no joke, recognize you're human and be mindful of your needs.

In addition, there is no such thing as a perfect school. Every school has its flaws and most of the time when people say yes, they're saying yes to the marketing campaign the school has. There is a large difference between the marketing campaign for the school and actually living there. It's always good to go to your top school and tour a second time so you know what definitely fits you.

Most importantly, do not be too consumed in your cell phone and pretend that you don't care about anything. That's like a lame childish response pretending you don't have feelings. And for those that still think this is the way to go, I can't wait until you take a sociology class and learn about how humans are dependent on one another.

Appreciate everything mom and dad have done for you. Do not fuss about what is put on the dinner table, and instead be grateful that they took their time to prepare a meal for YOU. Nothing compares to mom's home-cooked meals. Because that dining hall food can really mess you up.

You will be working the 9-5 all day every day. There will be more work, you will be stressed out about reading around 300 pages of material per week, and have the stress of having two tests as the only semester grades.

Lastly, you will actually have to adult for the first time ever in college and find what keeps you motivated. It's not a hand holding game with constant support. You have the opportunity to do a lot by yourself but also with others.

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5 Things Everyone Should Know When Making Self Love A Priority, As It Should Be

Basically, all you need is self love.

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Basically, all you need is self love. Self love should be your number one priority, so, here are things to know about self love.

1. Self love is not always easy.

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Although, self love should be self explanatory with the words alone, there may be some individuals out there who do not clearly understand the meaning because they have never been taught how to love themselves. The definition of self love is the love of oneself. In the beginning, loving oneself can be a hard process and doesn't happen overnight. Acquiring self love can take months, years, or even a person's entire lifetime to develop. However, once a person finds self love they will realize what they have been missing their entire life.

2. Accepting yourself, it’s truly ok to be different.

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The very first thing that you need to learn about self love, is to accept your flaws which can be difficult for some people in the beginning. But what you have to look at and understand is that those little imperfections makes you who you are. Everyone in this world is beautiful and handsome in their own way, and it's really okay to be different because in a world full of Cheerios, it's boring, so why not spice it up by being a fruit loop instead.

3. Practicing self care.

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Practicing self care, how do we get there? Self care is essential to preserving your own mental health. When you are feeling down and out about yourself or the negative things in society that may be affecting you, here are some tips to practice self care:

  • Remove yourself from negative environments
  • Avoid individuals who causes stress
  • Take breaks from electronics and social media
  • Meditate to strengthen your mind
  • Try painting or drawing to relax your mind
  • Try listening to music / dancing
  • Take a break and go outside to get some fresh air
  • Go on a little shopping spree and treat yourself on occasions
  • Relax to scented candles
  • Try having a discussion with your family and/or friends

4. You don't need anyone else to make you happy.

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Many people have been programmed to believe that they need someone in their lives in order for them to be happy, which is not accurate. To be honest, you don't need anyone else, you only need yourself. As my mother always used to say "You have to love yourself first, before you can love someone else," and she's right. Until a person truly understands what it means to make themselves a first priority before searching for a partner then they will struggle with self love. The reason I say this is because if you don't love yourself then how will you know how to love someone else? That is the million dollar question.

5. Knowing your worth.

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The golden rule is "Knowing your worth is key to loving yourself." If a person have confidence in themselves then their self-esteem will be higher. If self-esteem is present then they will not allow other people to treat them in a negative manner. Therefore, they are practicing self care/self love.

I want you to make it your number one priority to find your self love, then go out there in the world and love. One day you will find your soulmate who will cherish you for who you are, and they will love your imperfections as much as they love you. Otherwise, don't settle and certainly don't accept anyone who doesn't respect you because your life is a precious gift and should be treated as such.

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