A Reminder To Myself Going Into This New Year

A Reminder To Myself Going Into This New Year

Most people make some type of resolution for each new year, but many people don't follow through with them because they shoot too high.


Although I hope for many new things this year, I have one resolution that I want to focus on. Instead of calling it a resolution, I want to think of it as a reminder, and I hope that by putting it into writing, I can look back at it as a constant reminder.

For the new year and every year to follow, I want to live in the moment. We're all guilty of focusing on the future and obsessing over things out of our reach and about things that haven't happened yet, but I want to be grateful for the things going on now. I want to appreciate the good moments, the small moments, and I even want to live during the moments that seem too tough to handle.

This past year I've stressed too much, and I realized I stress about things I can't change more than I do appreciating things I don't want to change. Everyone has heard the saying, "Instead of asking yourself 'Why is this happening to me?,' ask yourself, 'What is this teaching me?," and I want to remember that every time I feel like giving up.

I've been focusing on transferring schools, and I haven't been focusing on the school I go to now. I want to meet new people, go to parties, and be more involved until one day I won't get the chance. I've given up so many opportunities by waiting for new ones to arise. I also focus more on a career I may have in the future instead of appreciating where I work now and who I work with. I'm passing by opportunities and moments every day without realizing it. When I look back on this time in my life, I don't want to regret it. I don't want to think that I should've been appreciated or lived the fullest while I had the chance. I want to laugh and smile now, so I can look back and laugh and smile more. I want to remember being happy and loving every memory I make out of this time.

This year I don't want to dedicate the year to myself - I want to dedicate this year to everyone around me and everything going on. This year is about positivity, happiness, and enjoying life. If anyone needs a reminder to live in the moment, look at this article and remind yourself that every day brings something new, and everything has to end whether that be good or bad. I pass up too many good things anticipating what comes next. I don't want to take this life for granted. I want to live.

My fortune in my fortune cookie said, "Stop searching for forever. Happiness is sitting right next to you," and if that's not a sign, I don't know what is. Happiness is now. Happiness is this moment all those that continue. Happiness is me.

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To My Parents, On Their 21st Anniversary

Your incredible relationship doesn't go unnoticed.


Last weekend, I was hanging out with my family and we began sharing stories about how my grandparents, parents, and aunts and uncles met. Each story had its own special charm, from my parents being the classic high school sweethearts, to my aunt and uncle spotting each other from across a bar and knowing it was going to be something special, to my grandma boldly asking my grandpa to dance. Even though I wasn't there to witness the beginnings of these relationships, I am lucky enough to be able to see the bond between my parents firsthand every day and have learned so much about love and strength from them.

The relationship that my parents have built is so much more than just that of husband and wife. They are also best friends with countless inside jokes, dance partners with the kitchen as their dance floor, travel companions, and the most incredible parents that I could ever ask for. I'm sure that when they started dating in high school all those years ago, my parents couldn't have imagined all the things that they would go through on their journey together, but I'm also sure that they wouldn't trade that journey for the world.

In the 21 years my parents have been married, it's no secret that they've gone through their share of ups, downs, disagreements, and controversy. Some days they are slamming doors, other days they are laughing with each other to the point of tears, and sometimes these things happen within 30 minutes of one another. Although their relationship, like any other relationship, will never be perfect, the way that they come together to support and love one another despite their occasional battles is executed nearly flawlessly.

My parents make little decisions together every day about what show to watch or who's driving my brother to practice, and they've also conquered big decisions together, like figuring out the best way of telling their three young children that their dad had been diagnosed with cancer. Between the difficult task of raising three kids, taking care of one another in their sickest and most vulnerable moments, and working through the day-to-day disagreements, I've been shown that hard times truly can make a relationship stronger, and that even on the worst days, the love that they have for each other can still shine through.

Every love story is special, but in my biased opinion, I am sure that the story that my parents have begun to write and continue to craft together is one of the best. The way that they care about one another so effortlessly doesn't go unnoticed. In a world of divorce and failed relationships, it's definitely a blessing that my siblings and I are given such a great example of how passionate, silly, and meaningful a marriage can and should be. I am so lucky to be able to strive to model my own future relationship after that of my mom and dad, who have emulated their vows of marriage in every way possible.

So, here's to 21 years of marriage, of loud, pointless arguments that usually end in hysterical laughter, of painfully awful singing duets in the car, of getting through the good days and the bad, of building an unbreakable family, of lifelong commitment, and to being two amazing individuals who are even better together.

Mom & Dad,

I love you and happy anniversary!

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5 NBA Free Agents That Could Completely Change The NBA

You're traveling through another dimension, the middle ground between light and shadow, between science and superstition, and it lies between the pit of man's fears and the summit of his knowledge. You've just crossed over into the NBA free agency.


As the off-season of the 2018-2019 NBA season approaches, one of the most star-studded free agency lists in past years has the potential to flip the NBA we've known since LeBron James' "The Decision" on its head. Talents such as Kevin Durant, Kyrie Irving, Klay Thompson, Kawhi Leonard, and DeMarcus Cousins are looking forward to new contracts or new homes for next season. On top of free agency, the most talked about athletes the past two years, Zion Williamson is entering the 2019 NBA Draft. Enjoy your last few days of normality within the league, it appears we're aimed to enter the twilight zone.

1. Kevin Durant

Arguably the greatest scorer in the NBA, Kevin Durant enters free agency this summer. With the world at his feet, the four-time NBA scoring champion has to make an important decision for his future and legacy. Regardless of where the two time NBA champion lands, the team will instantly be considered a contender within their conference. Many consider the youthful Knicks organization with athletic talents like Dennis Smith Jr. and Kevin Knox alongside the third overall pick in the 2019 NBA Draft front runners for Durant.

2. Kawhi Leonard

It's Kawhi Leonard's world and we're just living in it. His transition in Toronto following a rough breakup with the San Antonio Spurs has been satisfying to watch. Kawhi concluded his David vs. Goliath story against the back-to-back defending NBA champions with an NBA Championship, the world has no choice but to accept his reign as the most dominant NBA player on the planet today.

3. Kyrie Irving

Between injury and an inconsistent post-season performance, Kyrie's value is unclear. It is also uncertain what Kyrie values for himself. After leaving Cleveland to escape LeBron's shadow and create his own legacy, he later admitted it was a foolish act and he's learned a valuable lesson from it. All signs are pointing towards a reunion between LeBron and Kyrie. Arguably one of the most dominant NBA duos of all-time, the Western Conference should be weary of the two reuniting under the bright Staples Center lights.

4. Klay Thompson

Klay Thompson has proven to be a ruthless athlete determined to do what's best for his team to win. Under the Golden State Warriors organization, Thompson's established himself as one of the deadliest shooters in the league. Recently, Thompson has developed his play on the opposite side of the floor, earning himself an NBA All-Defense award for the 2018-2019 season. Personally, I think Klay Thompson is the dark horse in the NBA Free Agency. I believe his potential is far greater than we've seen throughout his run in Golden State.

5. DeMarcus Cousins

Much like Kyrie Irving, DeMarcus Cousins has suffered from injury and inconsistent play in the post-season. Unfortunately for Cousins, the Warriors will most likely focus their available cap space on players like Klay Thompson and Kevin Durant due to his rocky history under the organization. Everyone is aware of the skillset DeMarcus Cousins possesses but that's not enough to secure the max deal he's looking for when considering the negative baggage coming alongside him.

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