In relationships, one is often faced with this statement, “you either get married or break up.”
While this statement is ultimately true, it does beg the question “how do we really get there?” Well, when it comes to relationships, we know how it starts; someone is attracted to someone, conversation ensues, and they either hook up or start dating. In a world where “Netflix & Chill” is becoming the norm, are people more likely to engage in quick and painless flings, or are people ready to go the distance?
From a routinely glance at Yik Yak, one can notice that there are an awful amount of requests to “Netflix & Chill” while others begrudgingly make remarks about how lonely they are and wish they had someone to hold them.
I believe that there is someone out there for everyone. Perhaps it was all the Disney movies I watched as a kid, but I firmly believe that everyone needs a companion.
The problem with relationships, or at least the long-term ones, is the issue of commitment. As a hopeless romantic myself, I like to think I'm ready for something real, but when the opportunity actually presents itself, I get scared. But who doesn’t love the idea of love? Having someone around for both your good and bad. Having someone to send you good morning text to wake up to. Having someone to tell you that your body or morning face (without make-up) is beautiful. If you told me that the idea wasn’t a tad bit alluring then I’d call you a liar… You liar.
At the same time, the idea is completely terrifying. Again, you either get married or you break up! Having the same person around can easily become a routine, right? The monotonous lifestyle of having a roommate; that’s what marriage is, essentially. At least until you have kids. Then it’s even crazier, but it’s for forever, right? So we’ll stay in love the whole time…
Right?
Another scary thought is how often marriages end up in divorce. For an institution that’s held in such high esteem in many cultures, it doesn’t seem to work that well. Is it the monotony? Are people just getting tired of being in love? I would hope not, because next thing you know, people are going to start taking pilgrimages around the world to recreate scenes from “Eat. Pray. Love.”
In my experience, I believe that this isn’t because some people don’t want to be in love. Everyone wants to be in love. I think it’s just the pain that scares them. It could also be the future as well. I don’t blame them at all. Heartbreak is horrible, plus, the future is already scary enough alone; just imagine it with someone else.
I truly believe there is someone for everybody, even if they just want to “Netflix & Chill.” The internet has made it so easy for us to find people to talk to, why shouldn’t we use it for romance as well? While the thought of commitment is frightening, there's always someone who could be the one.
So if you’re Netflix and chilling right now or you’re lying next to the person you want to marry: I’m happy for you–you bastard.
