This hashtag has become so trendy and common that I don’t think people realize the unhealthy mentality it promotes. I believe in relationships but I don’t believe in #relationshipgoals.
I believe more in loving and being myself. I don’t believe in needing a relationship to be happy. That is what this hashtag means. The commonality of this hashtag promotes that everyone should make this goal a priority. That kind of mentality is ingraved in our society with marriages. Relationships are harder than seeing two beautiful people in a picture smiling at each other captioning #relationshipgoals. The media shouldn’t be hashtaging #relationshipgoals; we should hashtaging the truth about relationships like, #monogamyishard #biologicallyhumansarenotmonogamybased. This doesn’t mean I don’t believe in relationships or monogamy. I think relationships are a beautiful thing and they teach so many life lessons. Although, relationships are way harder than the media portrays it.
So many people, especially girls, struggle with confidence and I partly blame the way this society portrays love and relationships. During relationships, misunderstanding, arguments, cheating, flirting with other people, pain and suffering takes place. Love is hard and a relationship goal should not be what you base your life. If you are just sitting and waiting to find the “right one”, you will eventually suffocate and ruin any relationship that comes your way.
Focus on yourself before anyone else. Learn to love yourself enough to know what goals are going to help you most in the long run.